One of my goals for January is to complete the Wife After God 30 Day Study. As most of you know, I am a newlywed and married my husband last October. I desire to have a marriage that honors the Lord and glorifies God, and going through this study was such a blessing to my newly-married heart.
Some of my favorite takeaways from the reflection:
"Your heart will attempt to manipulate your motives. However, if you fight your flesh as Jesus did, for the sake of reconciliation, your marriage will thrive with true intimacy."
Ronnie and I don't typically fight, but there are times that I have found that I allow my pride to come in-between us, and causing me to withhold forgiveness, or even repentance when I need to say "I'm sorry" to my husband. Jesus didn't wait for an apology before he surrendered himself, and I realized that it is my responsibility to seek reconciliation just as much as it is my husbands.
On the Ministry of Marriage
"Your marriage is a ministry where you and your husband can work together as a team to fulfill the needs of people around you, to show hospitality, to pray for people, to show compassion, to love by reflecting Christ's love as you mirror His image."
The thought of being a team to serve and bless others excites me so much. I desire so much to serve with my husband, to show Christ's love together. Its such a blessing to have a partner in this. My husband is one of the most generous people I know, and his selfless heart lights a fire in me to want to serve and bless people even more.
On Refining in Marriage
"Marriage is not just to make you happy by fulfilling all of your needs. Marriage is to make you holy by refining you through a process of transformation."
It's a really good thing that we had an amazing couple who did our marriage counseling and drilled this lesson into our heads. It really is a blessing I didn't come into marriage thinking it's sole purpose was to make me happy. Although Ronnie does make me happy, God's purpose for our marriage is to refine us to make us more like His perfect son, Jesus. The hardships we face, I can do so with joy knowing God is using them for His glory. I've never been so aware of my own sinfulness and ugliness in my heart as I am now that I am married, but I've never known more than I do now of just how much I need Jesus.
|This is our amazing friend & Youth Pastor we serve under who married us and his amazing wife, Kara. They blessed us SO MUCH by walking through our engagement season with us and being such an amazing support system for us!|
The last day of this study is my favorite part. I can't share it with you guys just yet because I don't want to give anything way incase Ronnie reads my blog but I will after I complete the "challenge." I would seriously recommend this book to any married woman or any girls who are engaged to be married. I downloaded it on my kindle, and know that I will probably go through it again in the future.