Tuesday, July 8, 2014

Self Hate

Happy Tuesday-so excited today because my friend Casey is here with an awesome post that addresses something I honestly have struggled with more than I care to admit: self hate. Please, read on because she speaks powerful truth all of us women need to let sink in!


Hello Happy is a Choice readers! I'm an honored to be posting on Brittany's space for the second time. And let's just all be real here…we can't get enough of her posts right?

I have a huge favor to ask of you, friends. Can I call you friend? Heck, if you're a fan of Brittany, then I'm a fan of you. I want you to stop and ask yourself: are you a victim of your own self hate?
No seriously…even if you just scoffed and said "not me". Then I urge you to look a little closer.

How many times have you looked in the mirror and thought DANG I'm having a great hair day? Oh you can count them on one hand too?
How about the times you've looked in the mirror and thought about your dark circles, imperfect skin, wrinkles, in need of dye roots? Oh right, have you lost count too?

How about those incredibly beautiful "beauty bloggers" with their daily makeup routines? Have you fallen victim to the "I wants" after their perfectly put together posts? I will attest that I have ran out to the local drug store in search of the beauty bloggers perfect skin remedy. Does it work? Generally not. This is in no way a blow to their routine, as I'm pretty positive its my own operating error.

Here's an even bigger question. When was the last time you felt beautiful in your skin sans makeup?
If you can honestly say that you have ever felt beautiful in your bare skin, then I need you to be on my cheerleading squad. I need your encouragement and the secrets to your wise ways.

I want to feel that pride and let go of the expectation. I want YOU to know that bare face that God gave you, is His gift of beauty. You are His design and He is proud of it, so why aren't you, me, we?

The Lord does not look at the things people look at. People look at the outward appearance, but the Lord looks at the heart. 1 Samuel 16:7

I urge you to stop falling victim to the requests of what the media and society "thinks" beauty should look like.

Instead watch this empowering video which teaches us what we need to be putting on our face and into our lives. Lets hold each other accountable, and stop the self hate; because more than anything self hate is what doesn't look beautiful on us.

Stop by and say hello! I'd love to meet you!
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  1. What a beautiful post that's filled with so much truth! As women, or men for that matter, it's so easy in this fast-paced, always-perfectly-put-together society to fall for that lie. Thanks for this sweet reminder.

  2. That video was perfect for this post!

  3. Thank you for sharing... I am most definitely a victim.

  4. everything about this post is perfect. I don't want my niece to grow up in a world that feels you need makeup to be beautiful. She is beautiful because she is a child of God and that is enough.

  5. I LOVE this post! So true .. I'm guilt of self hate, but I do always try and remember to think that God created me just as he wanted me to be so I should be happy! However, that self-hate still likes to pop it's ugly head up. thanks for the reminder!

  6. Girl I am OBSESSED with that video... Although I'm more obsessed with you and Brit. It was eye opening to reevaluate why I put on make-up and what I'm using it to hide. I've been reminding myself to wear less, to clothe myself with dignity and strength instead of hiding behind some powder and foundation. (Although my mascara isn't going anywhere soon)

  7. Thank you so much for this! Not only did I love the post I LOVED the video. Haha. Just what I needed to hear!

  8. This. is. awesome. YOU are awesome. And that video? Best thing I've seen in a long time!! Thank you for sharing these words of truth! XO!