Wednesday, July 16, 2014

Community Brew: Marriage


When I first read the topic for today's Community Brew post, I admit I quickly dismissed the idea of writing about the topic. The topic is marriage, and specifically, the question was asked "How has your "life stage" helped you grow in your relationship with Jesus?"  I read this on a morning I was feeling frustrated. I was feeling frustrated for myself and my sinful heart, feeling like a failure at nailing that whole "gentle and quiet spirit thing, and feeling prideful about my most recent argument with my husband.

I didn't want to show up to this space and write about marriage when I felt like I just not doing a good job at this whole wife thing. Those little shaming voices creeped in my head telling me I had no business writing about something I just wasn't good at.But, as I thought about it the rest of the day, I realized that what I was experiencing was all the more reason I should write. I realized that what I was struggling with, my pride and selfishness and insecurity, they are al areas that God is actively working on in my heart. I was reminded that I should be writing about this stuff-the nitty, gritty, real life lessons I'm learning, even when its hard.

Because God is actively pruning away the areas of my heart that are full of weeds so that I can bear fruit, and I want to bring these areas into the light so we all can encourage one another if its something that maybe God is working on your heart in too. What marriage has taught me more than anything over the past 10 months is how  much I need Jesus. I've never been more aware of my sinfulness, but I've never been more grateful for the grace of God, and the grace of my husband.

Marriage has taught me a lot-but lately, I've been reminded how incredibly powerful the words "I'm sorry," and "I forgive you" truly are. I've learned (but not yet mastered) the true importance of repentance, and grace even when its undeserved and plain hard to do. I've come before God on my knees, thankful that He is so quick to welcome me back to His loving arms, no matter how far I've fallen or how many times I've failed Him.

If we can come before our husband, and God and repent our sinful words, thoughts, and actions, not only does it bring healing into our marriage, but also our own hearts. Its not an easy thing for me to do, to humble myself and confess that I was wrong in the way I spoke to my husband, or ask for forgiveness for my hurtful words, but when I do God works in my marriage and my heart. It gives God room to prune away the dead leaves and vines that are not bearing fruit, so then in turn, we can bear fruit in our own lives and in our marriage.


I recently came across this infographic about weddings, marriages, and honeymoons and its got me thinking about all that time that I (and countless other brides) invested into wedding planning, planning the perfect day and perfect dress and romantic honeymoon. And I am so glad for the gift of marriage, for being able to celebrate with friends and family, for the luxourius honeymoon and gorgeous flowers. But more than that, I'm thankful for a partner to do life with. A husband who will always stand hand in hand with me, through the moments of joy and moments of hurt. A husband who at the end of the day, will love me through my darkest days, my crankiest hours and my worst attitudes.



Wedding Infographic

Infographic Presented By Country Club Receptions

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14 comments:

  1. I've never been more humbled than I am in marriage. I am such a prideful person--I can get into an argument with someone and hold on out saying "I'm sorry" for days if I think I'm right. But really, in marriage, there is no right and wrong--it's all about realizing there is another side to the story and apologizing...for the reactions I had, for the way I spoke, for my attitude. I'm never innocent, and I'm learning that slowly. I do know one thing, I'm so thankful for God's grace. My sins and shortcomings are multiplied and magnified in marriage, but I'm thankful that the Lord extends grace to me, and therefore, I need to do the same for Andrew.

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  2. that is an interesting graphic!!! i am jumped out of my seat when i saw the "average" budget for a wedding!

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  3. Every marriage has arguments. It's not the most fun, but it's very normal. Learning to recover well from those arguments is so needed, and I really struggled with learning about the important of forgiveness during my first year of marriage...it makes it a lot easier when I can forgive my husband quickly, and not take offense too easily!

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  4. "I've never been more aware of my sinfulness, but I've never been more grateful for the grace of God, and the grace of my husband." I know that's tough to say but I love that you said it! Marriage does have a way of pointing out our biggest flaws sometimes. I really feel like my husband is a big mirror for me to really look into myself through. But you're so right that in that awareness of sin, we also have the awareness of God's infinite grace. I'm so thankful for that! Thank you for sharing your heart and about your marriage, especially during a time where you don't feel like you have a perfect marriage!

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  5. I love how you admitted that sometimes its hard to say "Im Sorry" or "I Forgive You" but it is so crucial in a relationship! I am a prideful person when it comes to these situations as well! Thank you for sharing your heart! :)

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  6. That graphic was so interesting!

    Also, love your use of the words "I'm sorry" and "I forgive you." I think we need to use those as often as "I love you," even if they are more difficult to say sometimes.

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  7. Wow! So very very true. I have to work at this thing we call being a wife and marriage every day. And like you, God is working in my heart to make me better. So glad you had a change of heart and posted this! :)

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  8. Love this! The facts are very interesting! :) Thanks for sharing!

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  9. I found your blog through the community brew, and I have to tell you I'm absolutely loving your blog! I just read your "about" page, and it's a tiny bit scary how much we have in common. I graduated with a degree in elementary education, but then decided I hated teaching and was kind of left out in the cold to decide what my next move was. This only made my anxiety issues much worse. Pair that with getting married the summer after college graduation and I was a bit of a mess. My husband and I will have been married for 2 years in a few days, and it's definitely been a roller-coaster. One that has been amazing and I'm so blessed to have been given, but an interesting journey for sure! Excited to follow along on your journey, and know that you aren't the only one who feels like they still are figuring this whole "wife thing" out! <3

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  10. This is the perfect post that I needed to read and remember. Sometimes when I feel I'm right and want to be stubborn it is really hard to say sorry for whatever reason. I know how much good those words can do on my heart. Love this post!

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  11. What a great post! I love all the info graphics, so much interesting information.

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  12. It's amazing to me how some dont even know the words "i'm sorry" or "i forgive you" or even "Thank you"

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  13. You are so right about how sanctifying marriage is. More than any other relationship in my life, it's shown me my own sin. Also, I love the infographic. The average length of engagements makes me a little sad, though.

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  14. "Because God is actively pruning away the areas of my heart that are full of weeds so that I can bear fruit, and I want to bring these areas into the light so we all can encourage one another if its something that maybe God is working on your heart in too." If I could sum up why I blog in a sentence this is it...we bring vulnerability and our lives to the table, to show people how human we are, and how huge and awesome Jesus is...amen sister! Loved reading this, and so thankful to have you push yourself to link up!

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