Wednesday, June 4, 2014

The Kind of Friend I Want to Be


Recently, one of my friends started working at my office, in another department. Our departments don't interact super often, but she's only a short walk down the hall away. We've had lunch together once, and spent a few of our breaks together in the past few weeks and I was reminded about how nice it was to have a friend at the office. This friend is a very intentional friend, and stopped by my office the other day just to tell me good luck on my upcoming test. Intentional. Thats the kind of friend I want to be.

Another one of my friends suffered a tragedy six weeks before my wedding. She lost her fiancé in a tragic accident, but she still hopped on a plane and came to Idaho with a smile on her face to hold my hand and stand by my side on my wedding day. She never complained, she smiled and laughed and helped and served selflessly to make sure my wedding weekend was a dream come true. Selfless. Thats the kind of friend I want to be.



I've been thinking a lot about this, about the kind of friend I want to be. A friend that remembers the important events in people's lives and takes a minute to text them and let them know  I am thinking of them. A friend that asks how they can be praying for people, and actually remembers to pray. A friend that speaks encouraging and life giving words instead of only venting and whining about my own problems. A friend that makes time for people, even when I want to be selfless with my time. A friend that invites people over for meals and sits around the table and talks about real stuff. Stuff like marriage and what God is teaching us and what is on our hearts. A friend that is there, quick to listen, slow to speak and loves others well.

I have to admit-I am not always this friend. In fact, more often than not I am not this friend and my selfish and prideful flesh distracts me from pointing my friends to Jesus. And thats what I want to do more of. I want to be the kind of friend that points people to Jesus. This is what I am going to be focusing on over the next few months. Loving my friends intentionally, and being a light to them in the seasons of joy and seasons of sorrow.

Tomorrow I am headed off to Arizona for a long weekend with my beautiful friend Lea, the selfless, strong and compassionate woman who in the midst of her own sorrow, was able to celebrate and serve me. I pray our time together is full of joy and fills us up in ways we could only dream of. Thankful for friends in my life who make me want to be a better friend myself.


25 comments:

  1. Love this. Couldn't agree more. Such beautiful, inspiring words! xx

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  2. SO in love with this post. So beautiful!

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  3. Yep. That's the kind of friend I want to be as well. I think I get so caught up in what kind of friend they are to me, I don't think about what kind of friend I am to them often enough

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  4. This was JUST the post I needed to read this morning- in fact I just finished up reading the passage in James talking about being quick to listen and slow to speak... I'm not very good at putting that into practice, and it's wonderful to see a blog I know will keep me accountable!

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  5. you have wonderful, wonderful friends! that is the type of friend i want to be too!

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  6. Beautiful post, I hope you have a wonderful weekend with your friend (who sounds like an amazingly wonderful person, btw)! :)

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  7. You couldn't have said it better! This is a subject that's been on my heart lately as well. I don't feel as though I've been the best friend, because I am quite selfish with my time and energy.

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  8. I love this! Friendships are so beautiful. There is nothing better than an intentional friend. I hope that I can be that person too!

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  9. Love this. It's so important to have friendships and to remember to be the kind of friend that you want in your life. Have such a great weekend in Arizona!

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  10. What an amazing reminder. I don't ever want to take my friendships for granted!

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  11. I love this because being a friend really does need to be intentional especially when work and daily things come up. Such a great reminder.

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  12. This is phenomenal. Absolutely phenomenal.

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  13. This is so beautiful! Friendships are such a precious thing!

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  14. I love this! Such an excellent reminder about how important it is to be intentional in our friendships.

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  15. I love this... I think about things like this so often!

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  16. OH MY GOSH ARIZONA IS SO CLOSE TO ME YET SO FAR.

    Now that I'm done thinking ALL ABOUT MYSELF, you're that friend and more. I would know because you're my friend. NO. BIG. DEAL.

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  17. I love this! I also would love to be a friend like that. I need to remember to be an intentional friend on a daily basis.

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  18. It sounds like you have some amazing friends!!!! This made me think about some of mine and the friend that I need to try and be. Thanks for sharing! :)

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  19. I think about this often. When i look at some of my friends and think about how much I love them, and want to be seen in this way. We can always better ourselves and that is what I aim to do.

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  20. Love this! A reminder to me to make sure that I am being intentional in all of my friendships. I have friends just like yours who are selflessly serving even in the midst of tragedies in their own lives and I want to strive to do the same.

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  21. this speaks straight to my heart.

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