Recently, one of my friends started working at my office, in another department. Our departments don't interact super often, but she's only a short walk down the hall away. We've had lunch together once, and spent a few of our breaks together in the past few weeks and I was reminded about how nice it was to have a friend at the office. This friend is a very intentional friend, and stopped by my office the other day just to tell me good luck on my upcoming test. Intentional. Thats the kind of friend I want to be.
Another one of my friends suffered a tragedy six weeks before my wedding. She lost her fiancé in a tragic accident, but she still hopped on a plane and came to Idaho with a smile on her face to hold my hand and stand by my side on my wedding day. She never complained, she smiled and laughed and helped and served selflessly to make sure my wedding weekend was a dream come true. Selfless. Thats the kind of friend I want to be.
I've been thinking a lot about this, about the kind of friend I want to be. A friend that remembers the important events in people's lives and takes a minute to text them and let them know I am thinking of them. A friend that asks how they can be praying for people, and actually remembers to pray. A friend that speaks encouraging and life giving words instead of only venting and whining about my own problems. A friend that makes time for people, even when I want to be selfless with my time. A friend that invites people over for meals and sits around the table and talks about real stuff. Stuff like marriage and what God is teaching us and what is on our hearts. A friend that is there, quick to listen, slow to speak and loves others well.
I have to admit-I am not always this friend. In fact, more often than not I am not this friend and my selfish and prideful flesh distracts me from pointing my friends to Jesus. And thats what I want to do more of. I want to be the kind of friend that points people to Jesus. This is what I am going to be focusing on over the next few months. Loving my friends intentionally, and being a light to them in the seasons of joy and seasons of sorrow.
Tomorrow I am headed off to Arizona for a long weekend with my beautiful friend Lea, the selfless, strong and compassionate woman who in the midst of her own sorrow, was able to celebrate and serve me. I pray our time together is full of joy and fills us up in ways we could only dream of. Thankful for friends in my life who make me want to be a better friend myself.