Wednesday, May 7, 2014

Words To Say





One of my intentions of this space is to write when I have words to say. Somewhere along the way, I think a lot of us bloggers/writers get tripped up with some burden of having to have a post up every day. It becomes something we have to do, an obligation, a job. And though there is something to be said for consistency, for writing even when you don't feel like it, I have been pondering the difference between writing through a writers block and writing when you just don't have anything to say.

Because sometimes, I don't have any words to say. Sometimes, they're just not there for one reason or another. But other times, I have so many thoughts and feelings that only writing will help me process and find the words. There is a difference though, isn't there? The difference is throwing together a quick post for the sake of having a blog post because you feel obligated to, and writing all your thoughts and feelings out into this blank screen and being surprised at where those words came from. Or maybe thats me.

But my intention for this space is to write when I have words. I desire for my words to be intentional, not thrown together. To bring out some emotion in those that read, to give that "Me too" opportunity to one of you experiencing something you feel alone in. To make you laugh or maybe make you cry, to inspire you or just maybe you'll feel like you know me a little bit better. That's the purpose of this place, at least according to me.

I desire to be consistent but I also know the reality of my schedule, and the way my heart processes life. Sometimes, writing is all that helps and others, I need sort out all my feelings and thoughts internally before I can publicly share them. The best part of this blog to me, besides the relationships I've formed, is it gives me a new perspective about each experience I face day to day. It reminds me to stop, to appreciate the moments, to reflect on what works in my life, and what doesn't work so great. It pushes me to step out of my comfort zone in order to have something to share with all of you. But, it does at time feel like a burden, and I don't want it to become something I have to do.

 My schedule this month has two really big events that I am preparing for currently: A half marathon on May 17th and my PHR certification test on May 31. Both of these things are not only SUPER important to me, but also come packaged with a nice big anxiety bow on top. The anxiety is something that I am working on letting go of, knowing that my performance on both events, the race and the test do not determine my identity or my worth.

So thats where we're at-I am going to make a valiant effort to write here when I have words to say. And even to push myself to find words to say when I don't feel like I have any. But, to give myself grace because sometimes, we don't have any words and thats okay too. I'm going to give myself a pass on writing a blog post when my schedule gets crazy or I just want to veg out on the couch in front of netflix with my husband. And I'm going to be okay with that. I'm letting go of the pressure, and going to write when I have words. Because its as simple as that.

What do you think is more important to you, in your writing and blogging? Being consistent and pushing yourself to find the words, or being okay with the silence and writing when you have something to say? I don't think there is a right or wrong-writing and blogging is personal and the beauty of it is we get to do what we want with our own space on the interwebz. I'd just love to hear your thoughts!

15 comments:

  1. You basically took my thoughts and wrote a post with this one...totally understand where you're coming from. On my old blog, I felt the pressure to be consistent and post 4-5 times a week. I felt like people didn't read or didn't stay interested if I didn't. With my new blog, I'm trying to be the opposite. The good thing about a blog is that it IS my own and I CAN write my own "rules" and do what feels best for me. Some weeks, I may post 5 times. Others, I may post once or not at all. And that's okay. Because the people that are GOING to read and care to read will read no matter what schedule I'm posting on. And plus, I'd rather post one meaningful post a week than 5 "fluff" ones just to have something posted. Quality over quantity, my friend. Love you!

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  2. I love this. I have been having a hard time deciding whether or not to blog when I don't feel inspired to. Lately life is just busy for me and if I do not write a post at least the night before or earlier, I know nothing will get posted. My blog isn't the most important thing in my life, so I am learning to prioritize. Making it what I want it to be. And if that means 2-3 posts a week. Then so be it!

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  3. Brittany... I couldn't agree with you more. You should post when you have the words... I think that is more important than writing just to write.

    I used to write almost daily but now I write about once a week.. I don't pressure myself and no one should. I love your thoughts... I read often but don't comment as much as I'd like too...Have a really great day.. enjoy those vegging out times with your hubby... ♡

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  4. I aim for at least 1 post a week that gives the "me too," feeling, or I wrote them as they come to me. Other than that, I don't mind posts about things that I've done, reviews of my favorite products, or just fun posts with recipes or things like that. I don't think I could live with the pressure of powerful posts 5 times a week. But if other people want to do that, I wouldn't pressure myself to post everyday!
    One last thought, I don't think my other posts are fillers because I genuinely enjoy writing them!

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  5. Yes, girl. This hits the nail on the head. I used to think I had to write every single day and I burnt myself out quickly. Now I post when I WANT to. :)

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  6. I find myself torn here. I try to write only when I have something to say, but then again I post every day and feel guilty if I don't. This has challenged me to be creative, to dig deeper inside myself and FIND content. Sometimes it's good, sometimes it sucks. But the point is that I post because I have words inside and they need to come out.

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  7. To me posting when you have something to say is more important than posting something to just be posting. To me it means more to read somthing that you poured your heart and soul into! I’m the same way on my blog. I write stuff when I’m compelled to write. I don’t worry about the number of readers I have but the context that I’m writing about and what means the most to me! I love your blog and look forward to reading every post that you make! Your and inspiration and definetely love getting to know you and your little family!

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  8. I find it better to take time when you really need it, especially if you're busy!

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  9. I definitely needed this today. My blog just went through a revamp stage, and I am now trying to figure out how I want to handle it. I enjoy blogging, but hate trying to write just to post something for the day. I definitely think that posts should be intentional.

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  10. I think I am taking the only blogging when I have things to say approach. In 2014 I made a commitment to trying to grow my blog & have been trying to post more often/more consistently & sometimes I think that makes the quality of my posts go down. Today I was feeling bad cause I didn't blog because of a case of writer's block but your post made me realize it is OK. & that it is OK to only blog when I feel like I have things to say, so thanks for this!

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  11. Amen and Amen my friend. Back to the blogging basics. I'm headed there, too :). Thanks for sharing this today and writing so freely!

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  12. I love this. I use to feel like I needed to post everyday but now it's 3 times a week. I need toget back on my blogging mojo. Good Luck with your marathon.

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  13. I loved this post darling - oh-so good AND I definitely had that 'me too' moment while reading. Thanks for being so raw and real and sharing what's put on your heart.

    I also loved this - 'writing through a writer's block and writing when you just don't have anything to say.' So good and so true.

    Keep on being you lovely!

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  14. For me, I felt a distinct call from the Lord to back-up. I knew that He wanted my to step back so that I could listen to Him a little bit more about what He wanted me to post. So often I had random thoughts spinning around in my head so that I could have something, anything to post. I knew that if I stopped thinking, I could hear when the Lord gently whispered, “this”. Its been so freeing and so incredible to start to have a space that I truly feel is right for me for now. I will just encourage you to do what you feel the Lord wants you to do! Maybe that will be continuing to post several times a week, or maybe twice a month. Like you said, there is no “wrong” or “right” way to do it, just what is right for you!!

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