When I was single, I used to dream what Valentine’s Day would be like if only I had a boyfriend. I dreamed of sparkly jewelry, of romantic dates, of flowers and chocolate and being swept off my feet. I dreamed of someday getting engaged with some elaborate, romantic, over the top engagement story, of the big 3 carat diamond rings girls pin to their dream wedding boards, I dreamed of that perfect wedding dress and a picture perfect life and man by my side. Oh, how I dreamed.
This year, I will be spending Valentine’s Day with my husband. And this year, he might send me flowers, and maybe some chocolate. I am sure he will make me feel loved because that’s what he does. But what I love most about this Valentine’s Day is I know I am going home to a man who truly, deeply, genuinely loves me for me. We’ll probably order a heart shaped pizza, curl up on the couch in our sweats, and have a Netflix/Hulu night in. We will be 100% ourselves, and 100% happy to be with each other. What I love about this Valentine’s Day is I get to spend it with my husband, who God has abundantly blessed me by allowing me to be his wife.
You see, our love is more than romance and sparkly jewelry and flowers. Our love is a love of grace, of forgiveness, of sacrifice and joy. Our love is a covenant we made to one another to love each other through the hills and valleys of this life. Oh, our love is an everyday kind of love. The love that perseveres through long days at office, through bills that we stretch to pay, through dark places and chronic illnesses, through burnt dinners and pizza deliveries at the last minute, through disappointment and harsh words and “I’m sorrys”. This love is unrelenting, it is deep, it is real, and it is one to be celebrated. This Valentine’s Day is about celebrating our marriage, which is a true gift from God. This Valentine’s Day for me is reflecting on how much better this deep faithful love is than any kind of romantic, sparkly, worldly “love” I ever could’ve dreamed of.
There is nothing wrong with romance, with gifts, with surprises and flowers and chocolate on Valentine’s Day. I think that if that makes you or your significant other feel loved, shoot for the MOON. Go all out and declare your love. I admit, I love a beautiful bouquet of flowers or a delicious box of chocolate. But those things, those aren’t the mark of love. Real love is a love worth fighting for, even when its not the kind of love you see in the movies. Real love is doing life with someone, through the seasons of joy and the seasons of heartbreak. It’s never giving up on each other, and choosing to love one another out of reverence for Christ. That’s what we’re celebrating this Valentine’s Day.
Today I also am introducing you to this gorgeous girl, Katie from A Beautiful Little Adventure. Katie is a newlywed whos blog I instantly fell in love with when I discovered it. She is an absolute LIGHT to the blogging world and her love story is just so sweet and special, it melts my heart. As a fellow alone-time lover, she reminds me to carve out some me time to fuel my own tank.
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You guys have to go stop by and check out her lovely little space on the internet. I adore her, and know you will too!