Thursday, February 27, 2014

Love Is Patient || Always Ashten

I have a long list of bloggers I LOVE and consider "real life friends" too. But my list of blogging friends I text and email/chat with on Google Chat all day is much shorter. Ok, I'll tell you whos on that list. Karissa and Ashten are the only two names. I never claimed to be cool okay? But you know who is cool? My friend Ashten. And she's here with a spot on post about how loved we are by God flaws and all, and also, she's letting us into her love life a little which is a real treat, if you ask me.

So, here she is. Ashten, from Always Ashten. Go stalk her blog after you're done here. I PROMISE you will love her.

I am, admittedly, NOT good at dating. I have a tendency to go for the guy who is 100% unavailable, or the guy who is not into commitment, or the guy who thinks of me as just a friend. I love the chase, I hate dating. I also have a history of dating bad boys. I am a disaster.

I recently have begun “dating” a friend/co-worker of my best friend Tessa’s. I use the term loosely because we’re just getting to know each other, and I’m terrified of commitment. He waited on the sidelines while I dated yet another bad boy, wanting to ask me out for a year, but never got up to guts to pull the trigger. Once I became single, Tessa pounced on the chance to set us up. He is a nice guy and is really funny. He likes sports, goes to Church every Sunday and he loves Jesus. I had the flu back in January and he texted every day to check on me, and asked me if I needed anything. We had been talking for about two weeks at that point.

Are you swooning yet?

Recently he asked me to go to Church with him. The question came naturally to him; like he was asking me if I liked chocolate or vanilla. Like “hey, what are you doing Sunday? You should come to Church with me.” I have never dated someone like this before: a guy who not only wants to help me when I’m sick but wants me to participate in his faith with him. I almost feel as though I’ve discovered that unicorns still exist. Now is where I should pause and tell you that in n addition to being a bad dater, I’m also bad at executing my faith. I believe. I have faith. I love Jesus. But I do not go to Church every Sunday, I’ve been falling asleep before I can read my Bible and I sometimes I forget to say my prayers at night. In fact, most days the most faith I can muster is listening to the Christian radio station in my car while sitting in the ungodly amount of traffic I deal with on a daily basis. I sometimes have trouble understanding what I read in the Bible and I feel intimidated by the people who seem to have such a good grasp on the good word.

When he asked me to go to Church with him I panicked. I did not grow up in Church, and really got serious about my faith when I moved to Atlanta in 2010. No guy has ever asked me to go to Church with him before. I was scared. Thoughts of “is he going to judge me when I don’t know all the worship songs? Will he think I’m a phony because I don’t go every Sunday? What if I don’t know all the verses they discuss during the service?!” went through my head a dozen times.

I’ve always loved this verse, and I think it fits so perfectly: “Love is patient, love is kind. It does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude. It is not self-seeking. It is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil, but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.” 1Corinthians 13:4-7

I’ve read that verse before and so have you. But reading it in the context of my current situation gives it on a whole new meaning. Am I in love? Absolutely not. But, the love I read in this verse is God’s love for me, and the kind of love we should all strive to have in our lives. God is not mad when I don’t go to Church every Sunday because He knows I believe, I love and I praise Him. God does not judge me on how many Bible verses I read or understand: God loves me unconditionally and His love does not keep record of wrong doings. While I worry about how I will appear to this new church going beau of mine, I know he will be patient, he will be kind and he will not judge. When we aim to love one another the way God loves us, we give each other the best gift possible: the gift of unfaltering, unwavering, confident love. A love that is pure, that does not keep score or judge others. It is a love that accepts, that pushes us to our limits and asks us to delight in hope.

That’s not such a bad thing to have in your faith or your dating life, if you ask me. Maybe there’s hope for me yet.



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30 comments:

  1. Loved this! Thank you for sharing! I can totally relate to how Ashten feels, I used to be so self-conscious when I went to church, especially because I was very new in my faith and had a lot of ground to make up. She is so wise to interpret and understand 1 Corinthians 13 the way that she did, it has taken me lots of prayer and thinking to get what God's love looks like, and I'm still working on it!

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    1. Thank you, Laurel! I always get nervous to write faith based posts but people are always so supportive and always relate to them so well! Have a great day!

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  2. Thank you so much for sharing this! I've recently been feeling a bit of fear as I get back into my faith and I've been questioning whether I should really be going to church when I'm no where near knowing everything there is to know about the verses, the songs, and everything that goes into a service. It's good knowing I'm not the only one who has had this fear, and the interpretation of 1 Corinthians 13 like that is incredibly comforting.

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    1. Hi Destiny! I'm trying to get back in to my faith as well and let me tell you: I have never been more scared than when I set foot in my church alone. But, I always leave happy I went and more at peace than when I entered. So, just go. You'll be so glad you did! <3

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  3. I used this verse in my wedding last year. It's my favorite! This post is beautiful.

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    1. It's such a beautiful verse for weddings, Kelley! Great choice! Thank you for reading! <3

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  4. Thank you for having me today, Brittany! I was so nervous to write this much less post it for the world to see and you were so good about pushing me to get out of my comfort zone.

    Love you, and I think you're the COOLEST. <3

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  5. I love your conviction! Thank you for being Real! Much Love...

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  6. This is a great post! I really needed it today. Thanks for sharing her on your blog!

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  7. I love this post. I think it speaks truth and it was probably hard to write this because you are putting yourself out there. I love it! Go to church with him. God put him in your life for a reason.

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  8. I love love love love love this. I'm the exact way with my faith. I'm almost even a little afraid to let it really shine, but I try my hardest, and I know God knows that. He sounds like a wonderful man. Definitely give this one a chance. :)

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    1. I'm considering it...we'll see what happens!

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  9. thanks for the introduction! What a refreshing post!

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    1. Hi Amanda! So nice to meet you, thank you for reading!

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  10. My goodness, Ashten! This is perfect. People don't understand that to be full of faith isn't just going to church. It's believing that God will love you no matter what.
    Good luck with the man friend!

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  11. Love Ashten! You two are two of my favs! This is a great post though and I'm so glad you shared, Ashten. Hope he's helping with Warners eating!

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  12. I love this! One of the best guest posts I've read on any blog in a long time! And it is nice to know that unicorns like your guy do exist!

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  13. Brittany this is another beautiful post... I am always touched and inspired ... so much so that I hope you don't mine but I wrote a blog post that I will post later but I have added your link in from your post about finding contentment. I was having one epiphany after another last week after making a decision and your post was one of the answers... :)

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    1. Thank you Launna! I'm glad you enjoyed my guest post.

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  14. Oh how I love this post and how I love me some Ashten! Girlfriend, you must go to church with him. Seeing as he is patient and kind, I know for a fact he won't judge your faith no matter what size it comes in. Besides, that's all up to you and the man upstairs. A man that leads you through your faith is one to keep around.
    Happy for you!

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    1. Oh how I love thee back, Casey Aslan. Jury still out on whether I'll go to church with him. :)

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  15. Wow, this is so great Ashten! I love it.

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