Tuesday, February 25, 2014

Finding Contentment


Finding Contentment

I am going to just come out and say that for me, genuine contentment doesn't come easy. Why is there such a sense of shame and embarrassment when we admit things about ourselves that aren't perfect? When we confess the ugly parts of our hearts out loud, I believe it brings healing and allows God room to refine us. I believe it brings freedom as well. I don't know if you're reading this and thinking "me too" but if you are, know, you're not alone. If you are thinking "I don't struggle with contentment" I would love to chat more about how you've found contentment in all of life's seasons.

I've battled true, genuine contentment for as long as I can remember. As a single girl, I longed for marriage. In high school, I longed for freedom and independence of a college student. In college, I counted the days down til when I could finally be a "real adult". I've begged God for a good job in my field and then turned around and wished I didn't have to work and could just stay home and be a wife. I mean, my list goes on and on you guys.

I don't know if its my type A, striving to achieve personality, or the way the world tells us to always be striving for that next best thing. To follow the order of events culture has deemed acceptable. To go to college, get that good job, get married, buy a house, get that promotion, have kids, etc. And what I've found true of myself, and many others is that we reach that milestone, and then we sit and revel in that feeling of accomplishment for about .2 seconds, and then are back on the grind, trying to reach that next milestone. That next step in our career or finally upgrading from an apartment to our own home or starting a family. I've found myself believing once I get to that point in my life, or once we have that, life will be better. I will be happy. I will be fulfilled.

What is your "thing" right now? When I get _____, I will be _______. 

I do believe that God is intentional, and has placed you where you are at right now for a specific purpose. And its hard to wrap our minds around when we have a desire that is just about bursting out of our hearts for something different isn't it? I asked my husband the other day "What if God calls us to do XYZ?" And it was one of those things that was a dream. Like, if God made it clear that was desire for us, I don't know HOW it would ever happen. And so simply and matter of factly, he told me that if that was God's desire for our lives, He will provide the tools and ways for it to happen.

My little obsessive human brain sometimes just can't accept that though. Instead, I want a plan of how we will get from where we are now, to where I want us to be.  I leave God out, and think that if I work hard enough, if I make enough plans, if I take matters into my own hands, then we can claw our way there. But in my discontent, I am basically telling God that what He's blessed me with now isn't quite good enough.

But maybe what God is asking of me, is to be content with where He has me now. To thank him for the abundance of blessings He's given us. To reflect on every way, big and small, He has come through for us and answered big prayers. To remember that He has never made a promise He hasn't kept. To remember that every single one of my days has been written in His book, and that I am never going to find contentment in my job or the size of my house or the vacations we go on or the amount of money in our bank account. That true contentment is found in Christ alone and the joy He offers us so greatly surpasses the joy I could find in the things of this world.

"But seek first the kingdom of God and his righteousness, and 
all these things will be added to you." Matthew 6:33 

16 comments:

  1. What kind of bible is that in the picture!? It looks amazing, i'd like to go get one. Help!! Thanks girl!

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  2. I know this feeling all too well. I've experienced it my whole life too along with anxiety of not getting to where I think I need to be. In those moments the only thing that helps me is leaning on God. Remembering that I do not have to be ashamed of my exhaustion, but see it as a time to lean on Him and let Him work wonders in me. I feel like a lot of it has to do with our personality, but for me it's strengthening my relationship with Christ to where my natural human tendencies don't take over. Praying for us both, dear!

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  3. Brittany... I could not agree more... it's not easy to give up control... I know... I have fought against it most of my life. What I find is when I say okay... It goes easier for me but I am forever thinking I can have all the control... I am always learning ;-)... great post ♡

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  4. This definitely hits home with me. I'm always longing for more, when I should really be happy and praising God with where I am currently. I try to look back at how far I've come, how much God has delivered me out of, and I try to see how many of my prayers he's answered- it makes me hopeful and excited for the future, yet content with the current moment : )

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  5. Struggling to find comfort and contentment in life's hard seasons is something I struggle with regularly. For example, Warner is so sick right now. Balancing that with my demanding work schedule is so hard. I'm struggling to find contentment in this struggle. This post helped me realize I'm not alone.

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  6. Love your heart. I often struggle with not being here in the present and always wishing/daydreaming/waiting for the best big thing...the next season...the next life stage.

    Let us dwell in the peace and presence of the Lord!!! xx

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  7. Thank you!!! I'm exactly the same way and struggle with the making plans to reach goals part. It's really hard for me to let go and let God lead. I'm glad I read this.

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  8. I totally identify with this post, Brittany! It's kind of what I was TRYING to write with my milestone post a while back, I always seem to fall into the trap of believing the next thing in life will bring true contentment. I find that daily prayer definitely helps calm my thoughts.

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  9. WOW. This hit home today. Thanks for sharing!

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  10. I so needed this reminder!!! Thank you!

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  11. Great post, Brittany! I struggle with contentment too. What we focus on is what we become, so keep your mind on Him and that will narrow your persecutive to what is important. I hope you have a lovely day. xoxo!

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  12. I heard an excellent sermon from Matt Chandler about this (pastor at a church my parents go to in Dallas). He says that as humans we will never be happy with any future version of ourselves and that stuff cannot satisfy. It really is only in Christ that we find the peace we long for and try to fill that gap with stuff. I struggle with this too. Thanks for sharing :)

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  13. Thank you for this post, a complete blessing! I love that no matter how much we struggle with contentment, God is always there holding our hands and loving us unconditionally!

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  14. Yes! Struggling with this now, so much. I need to rely that the Lord knows what the plans for my life, and I am to wait...which is so hard. Love this & you! xo

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  15. This is such a great post and I to struggle with it everyday! I pray that God gives me the peace I need for the place that I am in, not sure if it is working but I know one day he will give me that peace just like he will you.

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