Thursday, January 30, 2014

Wife After God Reflections


One of my goals for January is to complete the Wife After God 30 Day Study. As most of you know, I am a newlywed and married my husband last October. I desire to have a marriage that honors the Lord and glorifies God, and going through this study was such a blessing to my newly-married heart. 


Some of my favorite takeaways from the reflection:

On Reconciliation:
"Your heart will attempt to manipulate your motives. However, if you fight your flesh as Jesus did, for the sake of reconciliation, your marriage will thrive with true intimacy."

Ronnie and I don't typically fight, but there are times that I have found that I allow my pride to come in-between us,  and causing me to withhold forgiveness, or even repentance when I need to say "I'm sorry" to my husband. Jesus didn't wait for an apology before he surrendered himself, and I realized that it is my responsibility to seek reconciliation just as much as it is my husbands.

On the Ministry of Marriage
"Your marriage is a ministry where you and your husband can work together as a team to fulfill the needs of people around you, to show hospitality, to pray for people, to show compassion, to love by reflecting Christ's love as you mirror His image." 

The thought of being a team to serve and bless others excites me so much. I desire so much to serve with my husband, to show Christ's love together. Its such a blessing to have a partner in this. My husband is one of the most generous people I know, and his selfless heart lights a fire in me to want to serve and bless people even more.

On Refining in Marriage
"Marriage is not just to make you happy by fulfilling all of your needs. Marriage is to make you holy by refining you through a process of transformation."

It's a really good thing that we had an amazing couple who did our marriage counseling and drilled this lesson into our heads. It really is a blessing I didn't come into marriage thinking it's sole purpose was to make me happy. Although Ronnie does make me happy, God's purpose for our marriage is to refine us to make us more like His perfect son, Jesus. The hardships we face, I can do so with joy knowing God is using them for His glory.  I've never been so aware of my own sinfulness and ugliness in my heart as I am now that I am married, but I've never known more than I do now of just how much I need Jesus.

This is our amazing friend & Youth Pastor we serve under who married us and his amazing wife, Kara. They blessed us SO MUCH by walking through our engagement season with us and being such an amazing support system for us!


The last day of this study is my favorite part. I can't share it with you guys just yet because I don't want to give anything way incase Ronnie reads my blog but I will after I complete the "challenge."  I would seriously recommend this book to any married woman or any girls who are engaged to be married. I downloaded it on my kindle, and know that I will probably go through it again in the future. 

15 comments:

  1. Thank you so much for sharing this! I really needed to be reminded of these things :)

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  2. I already want to be a better wife and I'm not even married yet.

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  3. Hey beautiful!!! So glad we've connected now through this amazing book. Just started following you on GFC and am so excited to read along with another sister in Christ!!! :) Okay a few things...LOVE what you said about arguing/pride. It's funny how I read that day's title thinking, "Oh, I'm not a prideful person..." and then thinking "...oh wait. Yeah. I guess I am." I am so guilty on waiting for Mark to apologize first! And also...! Our church's youth pastor married us too!! :) We are in the same boat that they walked with us through our season of engagement...and better than that, they encourage and walk with us still 1.5 years later! What a treasure!!! So glad you loved this book as much as we did. Glory to God! xx

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  4. I loved this!! and I am loving this book!!!!!! I really needed to read this today! Thank you boo

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  5. That picture is gorgeous! You are such an inspiration in life :)

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  6. Hi!! I am Elise @ Cheers Yall's little sis and I have loved reading this amazing linkup. I am getting married in late May and I cannot wait to read this devotional once I'm officially a Mrs. I love your blog and just started following you on GFC...can't wait to read more! Xx.

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  7. I have never loved a devotional more than I did this one!! I love your outlook on it! I am like you, I Ihave never known more than I do now of just how much I need Jesus too!

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  8. I literally just ordered that book earlier this week. SO pumped to get it in the mail :)

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  9. I just got married in August and I've learned how much being married really does refine me. In ways that I don think any friendship or anything else could! It's such an extra blessing on top of all the things I already loved about being married :)

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  10. this post was so awesome & truth filled that i just ordered that devotional!! thanks for sharing!!

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  11. I want desperately to need this.
    When I do need this I will revel in your advice!!!

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  12. Loved reading your thoughts!! I thought this study was so good when I went through it at the end of summer. I KNOW I'll be picking it up again!!

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  13. I loved reading this! I am a newlywed, but have never heard of this devotional. I'm going to purchase it now! Thanks so much. I know my marriage can be more Christ-filled and centered, thank for the encouragement.

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  14. I want to read this now! Thanks for sharing! xo

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  15. I love this book. I stopped half way through for no good reason. I am going to start again after this blogger bible study ends.

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