Friday, January 10, 2014

Things That Make Me Uncomfortable (At Work)

I am one of those people that gets really uncomfortable, really easily. I get anxious when people do something that I think they should be embarrassed for, I don't know what to do when people cry, and when I am irritated, I don't do a good job of hiding it. At work, I seriously feel umcomfortable at least 10x a day.
Let me give you a little background about my work:

A. I work for a State Government Agency and 90% of the people here have been here for approximately 20 years. Okay I made that statistic up, but everyone has been here a REALLY LONG TIME. I went to a retirement party for someone that had been here for over 40 years a few weeks ago.

B. I'm at the headquarters location, and its a BIG building with over 1000 people in it. I am in the HR department, and in our office, theres about 10 other offices/cubicles. I know the 10 people I work with well, plus I know the other HR office people, and the training and development office employees. And thats about it. I would guess theres about 20 people in this building I know by name.



With that being said these things make me REALLY UNCOMFORTABLE at work. So uncomfortable I just want to crawl in a hole and die.

1. Bathroom small talk with employees I've never met.  Can we just all agree that theres no need to make conversation in the ladies room with a stranger? Even if we've made awkard eye contact in the hall, we don't need to chat about life. But it NEVER FAILS. Women I DO NOT KNOW always just start telling me the most random, pointless stuff that I don't care about. One lady said out of nowhere as I was washing my hands "Note to self, make less coffee tomorrow." And another lady starting telling me about the ankle pain she was having. And this is an everyday occurence. IT IS SO WEIRD.

2. When people share really personal, tragic details about their lives. This one, this is just too much. I know a lot about my immediate coworkers lives, they know a lot about mine. But the people who start talking about how they're going through a nasty divorce the second time we've ever spoken is just too much for me. Its even worse when said person is a male. I just can't handle this kind of situation gracefully. Why are you telling me this? Do you have a friend or a counselor you can talk to this about because I am NOT the right person to help you through your life crisis.

3. When people make references to my age like I am the office child. (I am.) I know I am, but its just so weird to overhear someone nogastlistically say "Oh but when you're Brittany's age....." I am in my twenties and the closet person to my age is 10+ years older. Everyone has kids and then theres me, the newlywed. Sometimes I hear things like "Ohhh...newlyweds. Just wait 5 years." when Ronnie brings me coffe at work or does something nice for me. Sad, right? 

4. When coworkers want justification for a bad decision. "I shouldn't eat this cookie, should I? I worked out yesterday though, and its one cookie. Plus, its Friday, and calories dont count. I am going to have a cookie." This makes me CRAZYYYYYYYYY. Have the DANG COOKIE, I am not judging you, I'm on my second one over here!


21 comments:

  1. Number 3 drives me nuts as well! We are at 2.5 years and still get this. very annoying. I'm pretty sure in 5 years we will still be madly in love!

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  2. My office is the same way! I'm the youngest too. These problems are things I face daily as well...especially number 4!

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  3. I agree with all of those things- # 3 hits the nail on the head for me.Plus.also... My name is Brittney, too lol.
    xo.Brittney

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  4. Ah Number #3!!!!!! I also am 10+ years away from the person closest to me. But I work for a family business... so tragedies... are even worse cause it entertwins with work life. And even though I am not a newlywed yet, they still make remarks, if he sends me flowers, brings me food, starbucks, etc... it's not going to end just because we've been together a couple years. Eshk.

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  5. Ughhh bathroom smalltalk is the worst... just wash your hands (pretty please) and get out! lol

    I'm also in awe of how much people will over-share with co-workers they barely know. It's called office gossip.. everything you say will get around and it won't be good for business. Make sure the person you're opening up to is someone you can trust.

    Happy Friday!

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  6. You hit the nail on the head with this one! This stuff happens to me every.day. BLAH

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  7. Ohhh, reading those just made me uncomfortable.

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  8. Oh my gosh ALL of those apply to my office. It's awful. I'm glad I'm not the only one over here feeling awkward at work. haha

    Danielle xx
    missglamdan.com

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  9. I'm going to add to this, a coworker is getting fired, like right now, and if he comes by my office I will have NO idea what to say or how to handle it. Making me uncomfortable and I'm sitting on the other side of the floor!

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  10. bathroom talkers are the worst. ii hate it when they try to talk to me because i'm like: i'm here to do my bidness, you do not exist!

    -kathy
    Vodka and Soda

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  11. Lol, funny stuff!!!

    (PS....I also hate the "just wait..." comments when referring to marriage. >puke<)

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  12. Just this week I've heard THREE comments about my age. Two have been from children. WHY ME

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  13. #3! The "newlywed" thing. Yeah. People would also ask how married life was treating me and when I said it was going great they would shake their heads and say just wait until you've been married longer. Geez! So annoying.

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  15. Bathroom small talk is definitely awkward!! I would never initiate that!

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  16. Wow! This is my life! I work in a small office and everyone is about 20+ years older than me so I am technically the office baby...I am easily anxious and uncomfortable too. So funny!

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  17. Where I work almost everyone is wayyy older than me. The closest is about 9 years older and they are all married with kids. I haven't gotten too many comments from them about my age but I have gotten comments from people that come in to our workplace and they ask me "How old are you?" or "Are you graduating this year?" and I'm like ".....I'm 21." It kind of drives me insane because I am NOT a high schooler anymore, people!

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  18. I hate bathroom small talk. Just let me do what I need to do and leave. And then, I feel super awkward whenever it happens because how do I end that conversation? "welp, see ya later?" Very uncomfortable!

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  19. I hate small talk period! Whether it's in the bathroom or waiting in a line especially if it's with people I don't know! And I never know what to say to people who unload their feelings on me it makes me so uncomfortable too!

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  20. I'm the baby of my office too and they ALWAYS say the same things about Nate and I being newlyweds. I always want to say something snarky to them about how we'll love each other always but I know it wouldn't help anything.

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