Thursday, January 16, 2014

4 Reasons Our Marriage Rocks



Is it annoying when someone talks about how much they love being married, how great it is, how happy they are, etc? Because I am sorry to be that annoying blogger. But I tell you all this to tell you that I am thankful for the gift of marriage. I really am thankful for a loving, encouraging, selfless, funny husband.

And I want to encourage other wives to seek out the positives and blessings of their marriage, instead of the negatives and the faults. I want to encourage single girls that in God's perfect timing, He will give you your hearts desires. And sometimes, that comes with a waiting season. But the waiting, oh how the Lord grew and stretched me. And I can tell you one thing: It is worth it. Wait for the kind of guy you can write a post like this about someday. Its worth the wait.



Four Reasons Our Marriage Rocks

We’re best friends.
This guy is seriously my best friend. I have some really great girlfriends. But this guy is my BEST DANG FRIEND. When something good happens, he’s the first person I want to tell. When I am afraid or sad or anxious, he is my safe place. I genuinely feel most like myself when I am with him.

We are a team.
Ronnie and I are a team. We are each other’s team. We fight for each other and for our relationship more than we fight with each other. Each trial we face, we face together. When we do disagree, we both strive to see the bigger picture and make decisions together on what is best for our future.  I strive to respect my husband and appreciate his strengths, his wisdom and opinion on things. And I always feel heard, valued and respected by him.

We desire to serve one another.
Something we both continually try and do is show each other’s Christ’s love. We do this in the words we speak, in how we treat one another, pursuing each other, and serving one another. I want whole heartedly to serve my husband, and even when I have moments of ugly selfishness, Ronnie is full of grace. Daily we make the decision to serve one another, and pray for God to give us grace, strength and patience for those moments we fail.

We spend time apart.
I LOVE hanging out with Ronnie. We spend MOST of our time together when we’re not at work. But I also LOVE hanging out with myself and with my friends too. Ronnie doesn’t get offended when I want to go for a run by myself on Saturday afternoon, or if I want to have a girls night. And when he wants to have his friends over or have a guys night out at Buffalo Wild Wings, I send him off with a kiss and a smile and get stoked for my night alone with wine and Gossip Girl. I believe having a little bit of time away from one another, to cultivate and invest in our friendships and passions besides each other, makes our time together even sweeter!

I want to encourage you single girls...a marriage this sweet is a gift from God. And it didn't come without a waiting season either. I was in a season of waiting and it was hard. It wasn't pretty at times. I whined and complained and didn't trust God's timing. I wanted my plan versus the plan he had for me. But I promise you this...it was worth the wait. It was worth.the.wait. God won't without any good thing from you. He knows what He is doing. Rest knowing His plans are far greater than the plans you might have for yourself. THIS I PROMISE YOU!



18 comments:

  1. Thank you so much for this post. As a girl in my own waiting season, it's encouraging to read posts like this and know that with time I will be shaped into the type of woman that will be a worthy wife and that my future husband will be worth it.

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  2. I think all 4 reasons are what marriages should be made out of. I believe that my husband and I posses all 4 of those traits as well and it's the perfect balance :)

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  3. I love this!! This is perfect. It's great to know we have a great marriage. We do things together and we can do things apart as well.

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  4. I love reading these kinds of posts! :) Though I'm not married yet, I hope to have these four things in my marriage too! I couldn't agree more with #4 too - luckily my boyfriend and I are already good about this. We've had friends that aren't and I think it makes both of us more conscious of having our alone time, our friend time and our time!

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  5. This is the type of marriage that I want someday!! So happy that you have been blessed! :-) You and Ronnie are precious together.

    xoxo A
    www.southernbelleintraining.com

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  6. You and Amber make me want to get married. Somehow you make it seem less scary.

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  7. i agree; while it's good to spend time with your partner, it's also important to spend time with friends and continue to cultivate your own interests OUTSIDE of your relationship.

    -kathy
    Vodka and Soda

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  8. Oh, I love this! Marriage was always a SCARY thing for me, but it's honestly the best thing that has ever happened.

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  9. No it's not annoying! I love hearing the positives about marriage in such a negative world!
    Great post!

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  10. I love this! My husband is my best friend too, and I'm always afraid I'm annoying others when I talk about him constantly :D

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  11. Well, I would say my husband and I spend time apart too (we've been in different states for the past two weeks), but I'm not so sure being away from each other for weeks at a time on occasions is my favorite part of marriage. I think I'd prefer to be able to say that we "spend time apart" and it's only a few hours at a time! :) I miss him dreadfully when we are apart, but I'm glad our marriage is strong enough to handle the circumstances of life. And it's totally not annoying to see other happy couples. Why would I want to have the only happy marriage in the world? It's encouraging to see others doing more than surviving!

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  12. I'm SO HAPPY FOR YOU!!! Okay and I totally don't mean to be a Debbie downer, but, since hitting the year and a half mark, our marriage has been so tough and difficult and hard and just... poopy. So, remember how amazing it is now, because you'll need to remind yourself of these good days when things get super hard! SO HAPPY you're enjoying it so much!!! <3

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  13. Posts like this are so encouraging. I love when wives share the good, bad, and ugly...but mostly thankful for the positives! I love spending time alone, so thankful that Evan and I go to different schools. So happy that you are two are SO happy! :)

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  14. <3 I LOVE posts like this!!! Happy marriages are the BEST!

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  15. I agree with all those things! I think marriage is such a blessing and it is fun majority of the time! yes, there are hard times but they should not be the focus! The last one is so important (well really they all are)!! great post and great attitude! Marriage should reflect Christ and yours does!!!

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  16. I recently stumbled upon your blog and it is a TOTAL "God thing". You sweet girl are remarkable. This post struck me and hit me to the core, and I am so thankful you posted this subtle reminder I needed to hear today. Waiting.....waiting is the toughest thing I have ever done in my life! I have never been more lonely, cried so often, been happier, more bitter, in my whole entire life. I know God has something so incredible for me up his sleeve, in due time, but man alive is keeping that faith every day ever tough. My friends are getting married, starting families, and some days I just feel like i'm over here watching, breaking my bank account at Target buying them gifts. The most rewarding and toughest thing is watching your friends happy and getting married, etc. Some days are better than others. Some days I thoroughly enjoy this crazy ride and I am thankful for this "waiting time" because I know one day when I have someone by my side 24/7 I will wish for just a spare moment of alone time. Some days are really tough, because all I want is someone to share all of the blessings or hard times with. I swear the 20s are truly the best and worst years of our lives. They are amazing and awkward all the same. Being a woman, with the ability to flip emotions faster than someone can blink surely does not help matters. Anyways I am rambling....I really just wanted to say, THANK YOU for this post and this gentle reminder to keep on waiting. <3 xoxo.

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  17. such a beautiful post! love that you are yelling your happiness and marital bliss from the rooftops (blogtops!)!!!
    xox

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  18. What a beautiful post, I found you somehow on bloglovin and so glad I did. I like your writing style!

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