Thursday, October 31, 2013

How Do I Do It All??

If you've been around here for awhile, follow me on Twitter/Instagram, or we've chatted via e-mail, you probably know something I struggle with is the question of "How do you do it all?" I have talked about it here on the blog, I've asked for wisdom from friends, and other working bloggers, I've prayed and whined and cried about it.

I struggle with this. I work full-time in a career I feel blessed to be a part of, but working 40 hours is hard enough on its own as a single gal. When you throw in grad school, being a wife, serving in youth ministry, and trying to maintain relationships with friends and family, I find myself feeling like a failure in one or all of these areas almost all the time.

It wasn't until yesterday that I finally listened to what God has been trying to tell me for some time. I CAN'T do it all. Not by myself. I can't work all day, come home and fix dinner for my husband and keep the house in immaculate condition, plus have energy for school work and quality time with my husband. On my own strength, this is all impossible.

But this is what grace is for. If I could do all this own my own, if I could work 40 hours, serve in ministry, manage my home well, feed my husband healthy meals, and invest in relationships with friends and students, I wouldn't need Christ. I could do all this, and take the glory for it because I did it myself with my own strength.

But as  a wife, a student, a friend, an employee, then God is calling me to do these things in this season of my life well. We are to work with our whole heart at whatever we do. If this is God's will for my life, then God will give me the strength to do these things. Whatever I do that is good, I should do so that the watching world sees Jesus. Its not so I can boast about my accomplishments, my hard work, my detirmination, my success but so I can point people back to Christ, who gives me strength and grace to do these things.



When I try to do these things on my own, I fail. I fail miserably at keeping the house clean, I am too tired to cook a decent meal, I am unproductive and procrastinate at work and in school work. But when I recognize how much I need Jesus, and rely on the strength he freely gives, I am able to life up His name as I live out his will for my life.

This doesn't mean that if I say a prayer, I will suddenly have the desire to mop my floors, cook a four-course meal, write a paper and and go on a date in one night with my husband all after working all day. What it does mean is if I rely on Jesus, minute by minute, he gives me rest, energy, strength, and wisdom. I learn what it looks like to priortize, to plan ahead, to take rest when my to-do list is too long, to be efficient and wise with my time. If I lean in to Him, when I am worn out, He gives me strength to keep going.

You see, I can't do it all. I can't. In the places I am weak, I can rest easy that God says that his STRENGTH is made perfect in weakness. When we do things that we couldn't have done on our own, we get to give God the glory! Its okay that I can't do it all. I am thankful I can't, I am thankful that I can recognize my need for Jesus moment by moment. Jesus meant it when He said "It is finished." He died on the cross to give us life, so we don't have strive in vain to earn His love. He demonstrated it on the cross, and we can have peace, joy and hope because of this.

Whatever God has called you to, He will give you the strength to do it. I don't have to wonder how I will ever do it all, because I know now that I can't. I can't do it alone, but I can rest knowing that whatever good works God has started in me, He will complete them. He's given me the power to complete the things that I myself cannot. I can't do it, but Jesus who lives in me, can.




"But He said to me, "My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.Therefore I will boast all the more gladly about my weaknesses, so that Christ's power may rest on me." 2 Corinthians 12:9

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Wednesday, October 30, 2013

Why I Run



I run...because I can. Even with Rheumatoid Arthritis, thanks to modern medicine, health insurance, and God's grace, I am physically able to run.

I run...because I want to be healthy and strong.

I run...because I crave that time alone.

I run...because I feel like with each step, I am letting go of the stresses and worries of the day.

I run...because it is a time for me to pray, to process, and to brainstorm.

I run...because I want to be continually striving to be better.

I run...because it clears my head.

I run....because I love to eat.

I run...because discipline and hard work pay off.

I run...because I see the beauty in God's handiwork all around me-in the changing colors of the trees, in the sunset on an evening run, in the refreshing feeling of a run in pouring rain.

I run...because nothing beats a hot shower after a run on a cold day.

I run...because it makes me a better wife, friend, daughter, and employee.

Are you a runner? Tell me, why do you run?

Monday, October 28, 2013

10 Reasons I Admire My Groom


Its Monday, and I for one am not going to get stuck in the Poor-Me-Its-Monday Trap over here. Lets decide to LOVE this day, and hopefully it will love us back! I am looking forward to this week: I am hoping to have the first room of our home tour on the blog and am saying a little prayer we get our wedding pictures back!

This past week I was reminded by what a wonderful man I married. What a gift from God he is in my life, he loves me and serves me SO well. So, today, I bring you: 10 Reasons I Admire My Groom.

1. He is a servant-hearted leader. From the first day we met, Ronnie has looked for ways to serve me consistently and cheerfully.
2. He has the most generous heart. He lights up when he gets to give to others. He looks for ways to be generous and bless others. He is so caring and enjoys blessing people whenever we can.
3. He never fails to make me laugh. Even when I am frustrated, or upset, Ronnie can always, always make me laugh. He is quick witted and light hearted and a joy to be around.
4. He is such a gifted and talented musician. One of my favorite things about living together is hearing him sing and play music on his guitar. He uses his gifts to serve and glorify the Lord, and I feel such a rush of pride when he is onstage, playing music for Jesus at church on Sunday mornings.
5. He is the steady & strong that my anxious heart needs. Ronnie never wavers in his faithfulness to the Lord or to me. When I am stuck in my worry or fear, He is the steady, unwavering rock reminding me of the God who loves me deeply.
6. He is loyal and dependable.  He is a man who keeps his word, and never gives up on those he cares for. He is consistent and someone you can count on.
7. He loves Jesus and is obedient to God's voice. Ronnie's trust in the Lord encourages me to trust Him too, even when I do not see what God is doing. When God calls Ronnie to something, Ronnie follows, completely surrendered to the Lord. 
8. He supports me in work, school, ministry and even blogging. I am lucky to have a career I love, and am working towards my masters degree in my field and Ronnie is my biggest fan. He helps me around the house, with meals, and encourages me to take time to study as well as to rest. He encourages me when I am tired, or ready to give up on grad school. He also is always game for whatever crazy idea I have for my blog, even if it means him snapping one million pictures of me or cleaning one room REALLY well for our home tour.
9. He loves people so well. I don't consider myself a people person, so seeing Ronnie love others so well, so selflessly and invest time in the lives of other is such a blessing to me. He teaches me without saying a word how to love others well.
10. He never fails to extend grace to me even when I don't deserve it. Countless times I have been cranky, impatient, or selfish and Ronnie is so quick to forgive and offer me grace. He never holds a grudge, or brings up past offenses. His love, gentleness and grace brings me to the foot of the cross and reminds me how much I need Jesus.

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Hello lovely readers of Happy Is A Choice! I am so honored and excited to be on the sidebar for this month. I'm Megan and I blog over at Life of a College Girl! I'm a twenty something college student blogging about my faith, life, and everything else in between. You'll also read about my fun loving family and my sweet boyfriend! I live such a blessed life and give God all the glory. Without Him, I wouldn't be where I am in life today. So if you're bored, nosy, or want a new bloggy friend, head over to my blog! Stop and say hi, I love new friends!



Friday, October 25, 2013

Friday: What I Wore



Happy Friday!

I am no fashion blogger, but thats the beauty of this season.
Throw on a cute cardigan and some leggings and boots, and you look like you put some effort into your outfit when you feel as comfy as you would in a pair of pjs. 

Thanks to my sweet, selfless, servant-hearted husband for taking great care of me while I was sick, and having a happy heart when I asked him to snap these photos. 

Also, I'd like to thank the person who decided to make black and brown a thing. Love ya.









Hope your weekend is blessed, friends! 
We have dinner plans with friends, and I have a lofty goal of getting a couple rooms picture-ready in order to start our home-tour series next week.
I promise wedding details are coming soon-just waiting on those wedding pictures to come back! 


Thursday, October 24, 2013

A Real Sick Day

I am home sick from work today, and as hard as it is for me to actually rest and recover, every time I try to get up and do something productive I feel slightly dizzy and am so ready to be back in my bed. So here I am, with nothing interesting to write about. I've have this in my drafts for some time now, partially completed, so you're welcome for this ABC questionnaire post full of pointless information you probably never wanted to know.

A: Attached or Single? Attached, taken, married, and oh-so-happy about that!


 B: Best Friend? Steph, Karissa, Stacey, Sarah, Lea . The gangs all here! Not really, they're across the United States but distance means nothing when people mean so much.



 C: Cake or pie? Cake. I like approximately two kinds of pie only: Pumpkin, and Apple. Cake, I'd never turn down cake.

 D: Day of choice? Saturday-especially the Saturdays we have nothing planned and can sleep in, drink coffee and read in bed, and do whatever my heart desires for the rest of the day.

 E: Essential item? iPhone. Sad, but true.

 F: Favorite color? Purple.

 G: Gummy bears or worms? Give me all the gummies. Gummy bears, gummy sour worms, gummy rings, gummy frogs.

 H: Hometown? Boise, Idaho. Small enough to feel small town-ish, big enough to have things to do on the weekends.

 I: Favorite indulgence? Pumpkin Cheesecake from the Cheesecake Factory.
While trying to find this picture, one of the most popular search terms when you use pumpkin cheescake is "Pumpkin Cheescake Calories" WHY? You don't want to know. Trust me.

 J: January or July? July, July, July. There's not much too look forward to in January after January 1 except diets and exercise for resolution season.

 K: Kids? No kids, slow down, we just got married. But we have two pets that keep me up at night sometimes and remind me why I am not ready for children.

 L: Life isn’t complete without? Laughing so hard you cry with your besties.

 M: Marriage date? October 5th, 2013. Newlyweds.

 N: Number of brothers/sisters? Two brothers. I am the middle sister.

 O: Oranges or Apples? Really? Honeycrisp apples.

 P: Phobias/Fears? Being kidnapped/my house being broken into when I am home.

 Q: Quotes? "I have told you these things, so that in me you may have peace. In this world you will have trouble. But take heart! I have overcome the world"-Jesus

 R: Reasons to smile? Coffee and the leaves changing in the crisp fall air.

 S: Season of choice? See above. Fall. Fall. Fall.

 T: Tag 5 People. You're all tagged. You're welcome.

 U: Unknown fact about me? I never received my cutting certificate in kindergarten because I couldn't cut across a dotted line. I still am insecure about my cutting skills (they're terrible).

 V: Vegetable? Sweet potatoes! Sweet potato fries, roasted sweet potatoes, baked sweet potatoes with brown sugar and butter...give me all the sweet potatoes.

 W: Worst habit? Being attached to my iPhone, especially social media. I need help.

 X: Xray or Ultrasound? I chose neither?

 Y: Your favorite food? I don't know how people pick just one but you can never go wrong with feeding me pizza.

 Z: Zodiac sign? Scorpio the scorpion. Hiss.

Tuesday, October 22, 2013

Wedding Video: Sneak Peek

Happy Tuesday, lovelies. Today I just want to share with you a sneek peak of our wedding video! We had the BEST photographer and videographer, a husband and wife team that I could rave on and on about. Beau sent us this wedding video teaser over the weekend and has me SO excited to see both Carli's pictures and his full length video of our big day!

RONNIE-Brittany > Wedding Day: Teaser from Carli Hobson Photography & FIlm on Vimeo.



Hope your day is magical. Stay tuned for bachelorette party details coming this week.

Monday, October 21, 2013

Weekend Shenanigans: Pumpkin Patch


One of my favorite fall traditions is taking a trip to the pumpkin patch, and its even better with friends! Last year we went with our dear friends Steph and Jordan, and this year, they couldn't join us because they moved (excuse me while I go cry).

Luckily two of my other besties are still here and we decided to drag our husbands along for some fall fun! This year I didn't have to bring home any pumpkins because so far our garden has produced four pumpkins of our own, but I still was searching for a couple small ones to add to the collection. 










Happy Fall Friends! What is on your fall bucket list?

Wednesday, October 16, 2013

New Normal: Routines & Tasks

Hi friends, Mrs. Rasmussen here!
A sweet picture my SIL took with her camera of our ring bearers and flowergirl


That is just never going to get old, at least anytime soon.

Yesterday was my first day back at work, and boy was it hard adjusting to the real world again! Luckily we both had Monday off to settle in, get some laundry/unpacking done, and to relax a little in our home, but we're still not completely done.

11 days into our marriage and I have never been happier. Our wedding was just what I wanted, so many of our amazing friends and family were there to celebrate with us and hopefully see Jesus throughout our ceremony and our relationship.

We're both working on finding that new normal now that we live together. Things that would change, or just be different when we combined our lives in every sense.

For instance:

Morning Routines: Yesterday morning, I woke up at 5:00 AM to get ready for work and realized that I was going to wake Ronnie up once I sat down at my vanity in our room to get ready for work. I wondered if I should get ready elsewhere, or should Ronnie just wake up to spend time with me in the morning??

Bed Time: I require about as much sleep as a child. Last night, my girlfriends came over for a couple hours, and when they left at 8:30, I hopped straight in my bed. Ronnie came home around 9 and I was fast asleep, but Ronnie is a night owl who doesn't sleep nearly as much as I do. Sorry that I turned into a pumpkin by 9:00 PM Husband!

Devotional Time: I have to be honest and admit neither of us were great about spending time with God through his word during our honeymoon. Now that we are home, I realized we both probably need to find a new routine for this, time for us individually and together to spend time in prayer and the word.

Dividing up household tasks: Both of us work full-time, and sometimes Ronnie works 50 or more hours a week between his position at the Church and his part time position at Starbucks. Who is going to make dinner, who is going to vacuum, and WHEN is this going to get done? How often? One of us (me) might want the house tidy and neat every night when we go to sleep, and another of us might prefer to just spend that time together, and cleaning up the next day.

Its different, sharing a home with someone 24/7. Its a GREAT different, its still one of the best things to me about being married is that every day we go to sleep together, and every morning I wake up next to him.All of these things are things that I am loving getting to figure out with my best friend. I know we will have new things come up that we continue to learn about each other, and learn how to manage our home and prioritize our relationship in the midst of a crazy life. What a blessing to have Ronnie as my partner in all of it!

Monday, October 14, 2013

Mr. & Mrs. Rasmussen Are Back!


Hi friends! Mrs. Rasmussen here!!

We are back after our DREAM HONEYMOON in Cancun, Mexico!
I am excited to be at home with my husband but our honeymoon was SO amazing,
I already am planning our one year anniversary trip!

The best part of coming home was that Ronnie and I got to come home,
to our house, together. 

No more saying goodnight, no more of me pouting when I have to sleep alone,
no more waking up without him here! 
Its so exciting to be in the home we bought together finally!

I will be back this week with more pictures and details from our honeymoon,
and wedding also, but today, we are going to try and settle in, 
unpack, and get ready to face reality when we go back to work tomorrow.

Can't wait to catch up on all your blogs! <3
Talk soon loves!

Thursday, October 10, 2013

Marriage: Rules for Fighting


Hello hello Happy Is A Choice readers! I am so excited that while the new Mrs. Rasmussen is off being married (!) I am here to do a special guest post for her!



I am Samantha from Everyday With S&J. Now that we're through with introductions... let's get down to some marriage advice!

Now I have only been married for 3 months and some days... Why am I in a place to give out marriage advice?

Well, I'm still married... So there's that. =)

But also because right before I got married I was constantly being given advice, and it's all pretty fresh in my brain.

My husband and I were married through our church and had to go through some pre-marriage counseling prior to our big day. We were not really looking forward to it but we learned so much from the experience. One lesson that really stuck with me, and that we have been able to use, are the Rules for Fighting.

Guess what. We fight. I'm not going to sugar coat it. We are both really stubborn, and we both think we are right... pretty much always. But our marriage isn't about trying to change each other or me trying to make him more like me. I fell in love with the person he is, and I don't want that person to go away. So when we can fight fairly, and follow the rules, we better each other and our marriage.

These are the rules that were taught to us, with a little of my own ad-libbing and opinion thrown in there.

Rule #1: Hold hands when you fight.
This is one of the hardest and best rules. For me... when my husband is making me mad the last thing I want to do is sit down and hold his hand. But this is such a great rule because I immediately notice if my voice is too high, and I stop yelling. It calms me down. And I can focus on what is really important; him, us, our marriage.

Rule #2: No name calling, no cursing, and no hitting below the belt.
Sometimes in the heat of the moment, when you feel hurt, it's easy to say something that you know is going to hurt back. Don't do it. You'll regret it. And we don't ever want to hurt the person we love. That is just going to make the fight last longer.

Rule #3: No hitting. At all.
Really, please don't make me explain this one. Just don't do it. Duh. Moving on.

Rule #4: Don't go to bed angry.
If I'm being completely honest... this is the very hardest rule for us. Sometimes it is easier for us to sleep on it, calm down a little, and revisit it in the morning. We both usually come back to the argument with fresh perspective and much less attitude. If we do have to go to bed angry, we always at least make sure we tell each other, "I love you."

Rule #5: Listen.
So simple, so important. Listen to what he is saying, and why he is upset. Listen to his side of things. If you can listen actively it might give you some insight into why you're in this position in the first place.

Rule #6: Don't bring up fights from the past.
You should leave what's in the past in the past. To quote Rafiki, "It doesn't matter, it's in the past." Ok, this might not be the case exactly, but bringing up a fight that you already had and have already (hopefully) gotten through, is not going to help your current situation.

Rule #7: Don't bring in outside people.
Your marriage is between you, your husband, and God. No one else. Telling your husband that your mother agrees with you right in the middle of your fight is going to help no one. Keep it between you guys. Don't make someone pick sides, or risk damaging a relationship between you and a friend, or your husband and a friend.

Rule #8: Pray.
Pray with your husband. Pray for your husband. Pray for yourself. Pray for your marriage. Pray. Keep Him as an active role in your marriage!

If you can follow these rules you will have a perfect marriage. I kid, I kid. But if you can follow these rules maybe you can use fights arguments discussions to better your marriage and your relationship through God.

Ok, that's enough wisdom for one day. For more nuggets of knowledge, random thoughts, and happenings of my life please stop by Everyday With S&J and say hi!

Love,
Samantha

Tuesday, October 8, 2013

Wedding Solo


Hello Brittany's Readers!!


 
While MRS. Brittany is on her honeymoon, I figured I would write about my life as a MISS.  My name is Cassie and I write a lifestyle blog over at Always a Blogsmaid, Never a Blogger.  I bet you are wondering if I'm going to sing a song, considering the title of this post.  Unfortunately, I have the voice of a howling dog.  I am actually talking about attending weddings without a plus one.  I am single and have been since June 2009.  I have attended more weddings over the past 4 years than I have actual dates.   
 
I still live at home due to student loans and on our most recent family beach trip, my younger sister got engaged.  That took a deep hit to my self esteem, but I am happy for them now.  I am currently scheduled to be a bridesmaid in three weddings; one next weekend and two in 2014.  


 
If you are a single gal in your 20's trying to figure out what the heck is going on in your life - I can totally relate.  I know what it is like to be the only one in your group of friends that doesn't have a male companion to hang out with. I know what it feels like to not have a +1 with your wedding invitation and you end up asking your mom to go with you.  Oh, just me?  Ha, but seriously feel free to email me anytime - I may not have much advice, but I can at least tell you "you are not alone." 
 
So please stop by my blog and I hope it makes you laugh.  If not with me, at me.  As long as your laughing, I'll keep blogging.  I promise I blog about more than just weddings; I write letters to babies who can't read yet, trips out of town, and most recently a college party I realized I was way too old to be at.  It's always a good time, so come on over. 

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Friday, October 4, 2013

This is Marriage: Part 4

Hi, Hello!! I AM GETTING MARRIED TOMORROW!

My friend Victoria is the last guest poster in this series, and I know you are going to absolutely LOVE what she has to say! I have loved getting to know her, so grab a cup of coffee and enjoy! :) See ya after I am Mrs. Rasmussen!

Hi, there! I'm Victoria. You can find me at my blog, Happily Ever Strader. I chat about all sorts of things in the life that my husband, Ben, and I share. Mainly, our home, our faith, and our marriage. :)

I am so excited for Brittany as her wedding approaches. Man, oh man. What a sweet time. Brit- as I type, I pray peace and love over your wedding day. I pray that you will pick up little memories, that your union will mirror Christ's love for the world, and that you will have an overall wonderful wedding day. Today I want to share what I think are a few of the precious things about a marriage grounded in Christ. Also, I hope you don't mind if I share with y'all a few of my favorite photos from our December 2012 wedding. They just make me so happy!

All wedding photos by Caroline Joy Photography.

Things to look forward to about Marriage:


Bedtime Prayers with your husband. Some couples do this differently, but in guarding our hearts, Ben and I never prayed together before our engagement, other than at meals. I remember so fondly how overwhelmed I felt by the surprise of our engagement, followed by the sweetness of praying together. I remember sitting by the creek bed, praying for our future children, our wedding ceremony, where we would live. Everything. Even in marriage, our "together" prayer life has evolved. Every night, we snuggle up in bed together and say our prayers. This is an intimacy that I cherish. If you are married and haven't practiced this, suggest it to your hubby. It's never too late to start a new tradition!



Becoming each other's family. You know how when you're young (okay, and old too!) and you're sick, you just want your mom? I can recall so many times as a child, waking up with a tummy ache or a cold and just needing the presence of a parent. There's something in us that craves nurturing. Soon after getting married, I found myself feeling nauseous during the day, so I came home early. Without getting too graphic, I remember sitting on our bathroom floor, completely spent, wishing that Ben could get home faster. I just needed him near, even if he couldn't actually help with the physical pain I was feeling.

Developing habits Together. Something I didn't realize until recently is that a huge part of your first year of marriage is establishing the way you want to live your life together. I feel like I am often telling friends of mine that faith has been more practical to me in this season of life than ever before. Right now, living out your faith comes in trying to decide how you and your husband will serve together as a family, where you choose to worship and how often, what kind of people you want in your lives, etc. A huge one for us has been learning to manage our finances. I used to write money management off, but soon realized it was important for me to take ownership over how we manage what God has blessed us with. For us, it's the envelope system. I'm so excited to see all that Brittany and Ronnie learn together in this new season of life.



Serving your Beloved in a new way. There is nothing better than showering the one you love with affection. Marriage is filled with all sorts of opportunities that you wouldn't have in a dating relationship. Loving Ben means doing his laundry and giving him a clean place to brush his teeth. It's being able to entertain in our home and write the tithe check for him and leaving him notes in the morning. It's being able to kiss his cheek while he takes a nap. For everyone, this looks different. But I can honestly say that serving my husband is one of the things that leaves me feeling the most fired up. I love this precious man and taking care of things for him!


If you're married, what are some of your favorite things about your union? If you're dreaming of marriage... what do those dreams look like? What do you think will be the very best? :) 

Thank you so much for having me, Choose Happy people! I'm ever so thankful, and hope you'll come tell me hello!

Wednesday, October 2, 2013

Wedding Wednesday!



Today is a VERY SPECIAL Wednesday because my two bridesmaids from out of town arrive today! I only have to work a half day-and then I am off until after our honeymoon!

I am SO excited to see Sarah and Lea both today! <3 It is really great they come in before the rest of the family arrives tomorrow-I am looking forward to some time alone with my gal pals before the craziness sets in!

Last night, after I got back in town from my work trip Ronnie and I, plus our parents went out to dinner. It was the first time our parents met, as Ronnie is from Chicago and his parents recently moved to New Mexico, so that was really great to have them together. My mom and step-dad live here in Boise, but my dad is in Alabama, so Ronnie's parents will get to meet him tomorrow!

Tomorrow night is my bachelorette party and I am really looking forward to a night out with a bunch of my dear friends. Can you believe its almost here? On Friday, one of my sweet new friends Victoria is sharing a very sweet guest post on my favorite topic: Marriage! I am really excited for you all to get to know her a little more, I personally am so glad I have been blessed to "meet" her  through blogging!

I will check in with you girls at least once before the wedding/and or honeymoon!

XOXO,
Almost-Mrs. Rasmussen