Thursday, June 27, 2013

A Little Life Update

What the-its already THURSDAY? Hooray for that good news. I started writing this post yesterday, but got so busy at work that I had to stop blogging  and actually, work.

This weeks news:

  • We got keys for our house Friday, and it officially closed and funded Monday. All weekend I moved small stuff in and packed, but Tuesday the movers came and when I got home from work, all my furniture was moved in and I've started the process of unpacking!

  • Last night was a typcial Wednesday night, Ronnie and I both serve in our youth ministry. Three of my 12th grade girls accepted Christ last Wednesday, so we celebrated that, plus one of the girls I co-lead got married two weeks and it was her first night back. We were so glad to see her!

  • Tonight we pick up our washer and dryer, and then are having dinner with a sweet couple from church. They have a young baby that I can't wait to hold :) We're going to BBQ and hopefully enjoy the warm summer weather and good company!

  • Tomorrow Ronnie and I are going to start the search for his wedding attire and his groomsmen. We still are struggling agreeing on this, so that'll be a real treat ;) We're also hoping to get registered tomorrow as well.

  • Saturday we're going to head down to the farmers market in downtown Boise in the morning, and then I have an appointment with a florist at noon. Hopefully after that appointment we can spend time at our new house, so much to be done. Unpack, yard work, etc!

I'm really looking forward to a day to just breathe, to feel rested, to not feel like I am running around like a chicken with my head cut off, but I am not sure if that day is in my near future or not! I'm hoping to give you guys some more wedding details soon, some pictures via pinterest so you can get the overall feel and theme we're going for. Its been fun, but a total whirlwind since we got engaged!

Monday, June 24, 2013

Weekend Update

Happy Monday, Friends!

I had a crazy but productive weekend this weekend. If you follow me on Instagram, you've probably seen a lot of these, but if you don't, heres some pictures and a little bit about what we were up to all weekend!

1. Karissa, Ronnie and I ran the Color Me Rad 5k. It was all fun and games til I tried running and drinking water at the same time, and I spilled water down the front of my shirt! Kidding. It was really fun. Its motivated Karissa and I to sign up for a 10k next month!

2. I did a lot of packing and moving into our new home! Tomorrow the movers come, and I still have a LOT to do tonight but luckily I have my apartment until the 30th to finalize last minute things. Isn't it annoying how all those last minute odds and ends stuff is the hardest and takes the longest to pack?

3. Two of my bridesmaids and my mom also went bridesmaid dress/engagement outfit shopping. It was such a success-we found a beautiful bridesmaid dress that was everything I dreamed of. Hopefully Karissa doesn't shoot me for posting this adorable picture of her in it. She was our model. Also, my mom found her mother of the bride dress, which she looks stunning in.

I also found one engagement picture outfit-we are taking those next Tuesday and I couldn't be more excited!

5. My niece's flower girl dress came in too. I had a mini panic attack last night when I pulled it from the package, and to my eye, it looked more fit for a baby than a 4 year old. I immediately drove to my brothers house, interrupted dinner and had Nora try it on. It fit like a gem, and all was well in the world.

4. Finally, I am staying with my girfriend Steph and we had such a fun time at our froyo datte last night with her little girl. Her daughter is a real crack up, and she made us laugh all night. She was LOVING her sorbet!

Wednesday, June 19, 2013


Friends, I have to confess something. I realize it isn't Confessional Friday, but it just can't wait.

I am so busy I don't even know which way is left and right.
My apartment is a wreck.
I haven't sat down with my bible and journal in over a week.
I am in my 8th week of one class for my masters, and my 1st week in another.
Whoever arranged that, having us do the last week of one course and 1st of another is just cruel.
I haven't worked out in weeks, and Karissa and Ronnie and I are running a 5k Saturday.
I've been eating terribly. I'm talking fast food and pizza terrible.
I can't focus on anything at work, all I can do is think about the phone calls and appointments I need to set up.

We are in the full swing of wedding planning, we hired our Photographer yesterday.
We also have our cake, venue, and flower girl/ring bearers outfits ordered and arranged.
OH and I have a dress!

On top of wedding planning, we just bought a house, and we close on it Friday.
I will be moving into it and living there until our wedding, and then Ronnie will move in.

I feel like my life is just a little out of control right now.
Wedding planning doesn't give me an excuse to put the rest of my life on hold.
Wedding planning doesn't come before spending time in prayer and in the word,
it isn't more important then finding time to exercize and cook healthy meals.

I am so excited, I want my day to be perfect, I want it fun and relaxing and most importantly,
I want to celebrate the reason we love. I want to celebrate the Gospel and show our friends
and family that Jesus has been the foundation for our relationship, and will be the center of our marriage.

But right now, I need to take a deep breath, and realize those invitations can wait.
I need to be present at work, I need to be present and involved with my students at Renewal,
I need to give Ronnie and our friends a break from wedding talk every once in awhile.

We are so blessed, and this season of engagement is going to fly by.
I want to remember it as a time where I am growing closer to the Lord, closer to Ronnie, and not
worried about wordly things. Instead of planning every detail of our day,
I want to be preparing for our marriage.

Tuesday, June 18, 2013

Our Engagement Story

Hi friends! I am back from Iowa as of late Sunday night. I am so happy to be home, and have been excited to share our engagement story with you all! :)

When I got home from work on Tuesday, there was a note on my whiteboard when I walked in, instructing me to look for the first clue "in the midst of the notes." There was a box of thank you notes right next to the whiteboard, so I dug through it real fast, and when I didn't find anything, I was frantic.I tore through each one again, opened them, dumped them on the table, etc. I then started texting my girlfriends and also Ronnie because I was losing my mind trying to find my clue. I knew this wasn't any typical scavenger hunt, I had a hunch it would end with something sparkly!

When I couldn't find the clue anywhere in my apartment, I decided to go get in the shower and shave my legs so I could wear a cute dress hahaha. I finally remembered that I had a wall of Post-Its notes on that spelled I <3 U from Valentines Day so I rushed up to the shelves on the wall, and there I found a sweet love letter and directions to my next clue.

My clue was Somewhere I could find some of my favorite things, and where a few people close to my heart frequent. I immeditaely rushed to Starbucks, duh. I LOVE coffee and lemon cake pops, and two of my closest friends work there! One of the baristas gave my next clue there.

In it was another letter, and a clue to go somewhere that we called ours. This just took me a couple minutes, was it a restraunt, coffee shop? But then I knew-our new HOUSE we just bought. We haven't closed on it yet, so its not officially ours (it will be this week!) so I drove there and found another clue in the bushes.

The next clue said to go where it all became official, so I drove to a park where Ronnie asked me to be his girlfriend in August. He had asked me on top of a hill, but I was blindfolded that night on the way up, so on Tuesday, I couldnt find the way up to the top and I wandered around feeling like an idiot for a good 10 minutes. Finally, I reached the top of the hill where Ronnie was waiting for me, and expected him to drop down on one knee then and there and call it a night.

NOPE. He had other plans. He took me to a really yummy dinner downtown, and I could hardly speak because I was thinking about when and if it was going to happen! Was he going to wait til after dinner? How does this work? I texted my girlfriends something along the lines of "What if he just is taking me on a sweet date before my trip?" HAHA.

After dinner, he took me to one of our favorite coffee shops downtown, and as soon as we sat down,he rushed me out again and told me to drink my coffee in the car. When we went back to where our cars was parked, he told me not to go in the apartment, and that we'd drive to desert together. He told me to keep my eyes closed the entire car ride and when he finally parked and let me open my eyes, we were in the backyard of our new house.

Candles in paper bags lined the entire backyard and there was a little table set up with wine and my favorite desert, lemon cake pops. We enjoyed desert and wine, and then he washed my feet and told me that he wanted me to know he would always serve me for the rest of his life.

I started crying then, just like I am crying now. What a blessing that man is, God couldn't have picked a better man to be my husband.

After he washed my feet, he told me the reason he wanted to propose in the backyard of our soon to be home is because soon, we'd be living there together and would start our lives and family in that home. He asked me to marry him and slipped on that most perfect ring, and of course, I said yes.

Engaged in front of our soon to be home :)
After we celebrated together for just a couple minutes, he got up quickly, dumped out his wine, and rushed me out of the yard again. I wasn't even finished with my wine! He seemed awfully excited to go watch Friday Night Lights, but before we went back to my apartment, he said he needed to get something at his house. All night my girlfriends and I had been texting and one of my friends is married to Ronnie's best friend and thats who he lives with, she had said she was going to bed so I was going to just wait in the car but he asked me to come in. When I got inside it was dark, and when Ronnie flipped on the lights, all of our dear friends jumped up and shouted surprise. I started crying again when I saw my best friends in one place, there to celebrate with me.

Some of the sweet girls in my life who came to celebrate with us!

My sweet book club girls

Happiest bride to be

I couldn't have asked for a sweeter, more thoughtful, so ME proposal. Ronnie has always sent me on little scavenger hunts, and it was so special that he chose our new home to begin this next chapter in our life. Having my friends there at the end of the night was a dream come true.

I am so happy, so blessed, so excited. I left the next day for my friend's wedding in Iowa, and am finally home with my fiancé. I will be moving here in the next couple weeks into our new home and anxiously waiting October 5th, the day I become Mrs. Rasmussen and don't have to say goodbye at night anymore.

Friday, June 14, 2013

Words of Wisdom from Nicole

Hey hey ladies!! My sweet friend Nicole is going to share some really wonderful words of wisdom about marriage and I just am SO excited. So blessed to call her a friend.
Hey, gals!  My name is Nicole and I blog over at bloom.  I'm so excited that Brittany invited me to share here at Happy is a Choice while she is away soaking up some wedding goodness this weekend.  Speaking of... OUR GIRL IS ENGAGED!  I'm so excited for you, Brittany, and I know that this next season of your life is going to be so sweet and I'm thrilled to get to watch as you learn, grow, and have the time of your life.

I became a bride-to-be on June 29, 2012, I was a bride on March 8, 2013, and began my first full day as a wife on March 9, 2013.  It's crazy to think how much your life can change in just a matter of months.  The Lord has worked in my life SO MUCH through these seasons and I am thankful for how I've been challenged and stretched.  As Brittany begins her engagement journey I wanted to encourage her (and you!) with a few things that the Lord has been teaching me.

1.  The love of a man is fantastic... the love of Jesus Christ cannot be challenged.

If I learned anything during my first few weeks of engagement I learned that having a ring on my left hand finger didn't solve the world's problems.  I wasn't all of a sudden exempt from life's trials or free from the pressure our culture places on us.  So many women feel that all their problems will be solved if they can just get a man.  If they can just find someone to commit to forever.  Is it wonderful?  Absolutely.  Have I had some of the best days of my life?  No doubt.  Was getting married the best thing that will ever happen to me?  No, no, no.  Man will always fail.  We will always fall short.  Because of sin, we'll never be perfect beings able to meet expectations all the time.  If I place all my hope in my husband, I WILL be disappointed.  But, the love of Jesus is so much different.  I CAN place all my hope in Him because His love never fails.  Yes, being married is one of the best earthly experiences I will ever have the privilege of knowing.  BUT.  Jesus is the only one who can truly fulfill us.  

2.  This season will pass.

I went through some really ugly days when we were dating.  I was ready to be engaged, I was ready to plan a wedding, I was ready for the life-long commitment.  I could be as impatient as a 2 year old child.  The Lord really broke my heart over my attitude and started to work in my heart towards the end of our dating season.  And then we got engaged.  I was ready for the showers, I was ready for the engagement pictures, I was ready for the white dress.  I tried my hardest not to wish the days away and by the grace of God I enjoyed our engagement more than I enjoyed some of our dating years.  I was thankful.  But, I still chose impatience some days and wished those precious engagement moments away.  The wedding day came and went with hardly a blink and "all that I ever wanted" happened.  I left our reception with a husband and I've slept right next to him every night since.  Not long after we were married the reality of it all really started to sink in.  I have wished so much away in the past... what do I wish away now?  Our newlywed years?  The first few years as parents?  Life flashes by in a minute, ladies.  Seasons come and seasons go and the Lord places us in each one for a specific reason.  What will you do with that time?  Will you serve Jesus or will you waste the opportunities He gives you?  Some truths I have really struggled with these past few years.

3.  PRAY.

Pray over your boyfriend, your fiancĂ©, your husband.  Pray for your relationship that it would be pure, Christ-honoring, and protected.  I've been convicted lately that I don't pray over our marriage enough.  What a precious, precious covenant we've entered into.  I should be praying over it daily!  I know that the Lord wants us to surrender every relationship under his Lordship and I know that He is satisfied when we are seeking Him daily.  Pray, ladies, pray!

What a blessing these last few seasons have been in my life.  The Lord has been faithful to show me my sin and pour out grace so that I could learn to to cling to Him a little more.  Brittany, I am SO EXCITED for all the joy that is about to enter your life.  Some of the most thrilling experiences are yet to come and it is going to be a sweet time for you, my friend.  

I pray that no matter what season of life you find yourself in today that you would rest in the fact that Jesus is good and that He desires for you to seek Him above all else.  If you're feeling let down, disappointed, or longing for more, know that your answers will be found in Jesus.  Be encouraged, friends!

Thanks, Brittany, for having me!  I can't wait to follow you along your engagement journey and watch as you learn what it means to become a wife!  It my most exciting adventure yet, and I know you will agree!  Thanks to YOU, Happy is a Choice readers, for allowing me to chat with you here today!  Come visit me at bloom for our latest marriage adventure!

Nicole, knowing that I have a blogging friend who is desiring to have a Christ centered marriage who is walking along side of me with advice, wisdom, prayers and support means so much to me! Thanks for sharing with my lovely readers today!

Thursday, June 13, 2013

In His Timing

I am all the way in Iowa, not to be mistaken for my hometown of Idaho! One of my best friends is getting married, so we are getting ready for the big day. My friend Cassie from Sage is going to share about something that I personally struggled with while I was waiting on that ring! I know my struggle isn't over just because I am engaged. Her words are wise, and her passion for Jesus is evident! 

If you’re anything like me, you want to control every detail of every situation. If you’re not like me, I applaud you. Wanting to control every detail makes it incredibly difficult to trust God, namely God’s timing. Before I got engaged this last Sunday, I was having a really hard time trusting that the Lord’s time would be the best time, and that He would come through with whatever was best for me. I was waiting for what felt like forever.
Now that I am engaged, although I realize I was not always trusting, I am grateful for the times that I was. Knowing that I was trusting in the Lord’s timing brought me comfort in knowing that because I had waited, this was exactly how He had planned it. It made me confident that getting engaged now was the right timing, and reaffirmed that we did not rush into anything.
For the last few months I have been anxiously awaiting an engagement. Although I was excited, I knew it was important to treasure my time as a single gal . I tried my best to really treasure this time and really give my all to the Lord, because I knew once I got engaged and eventually married, things would be very different.
The best suggestion I can offer for those ladies in waiting is to just TRUST Him. I know that is easier said than done, so pray constantly. Read books like “Lady in Waiting” and “Things I Wish I Had Known before I Got Married.” Prepare yourself as much as possible, while still giving your all to Jesus. Spend time with your friends and family, and just enjoy the time you have as a single lady. Waiting is a PRIVILEGE not a punishment. God knows when the right timing is for you. He knows that He wants you to be prepared to be the best possible person you can be before you give your life to someone else. So focus on YOU and overall, always keep your eyes focused on Him.
Now that I am engaged, I still want to wait on the Lord’s plan. I want to trust that whenever we choose to have our wedding will be according to His will, and I want to trust that although I might get anxious while waiting to walk down the aisle and marry the man I love, God has given me this time to prepare to be the best wife I possibly can. I hope that all of you ladies in waiting, whether it is for the perfect man to come along, that ideal job, or something else, will put your trust in the One that knows and loves you best.

Thanks for sharing, lovely lady. So true. So happy to be engaged with you :)

Tomorrow, another sweet, wise, and beautiful friend of mine will be sharing a little about what she's learned in her time as a married lady! I love hearing from her, and I know you will too!

Wednesday, June 12, 2013

Bling Bling

Just popping in to share some of the best news OF MY LIFE with you all!!!

The man of my dreams popped the question last night!!!!!!!!!! EEEEEE!!!!!!!!!!!

I am on cloud nine. I can't stop staring at my beautiful ring!

I will be back with a full engagement story next week, but until then, I am going to leave you with a few pictures. My friends were all waiting for me at a surprise engagement party after the big proposal and I can't imagine a sweeter night.

So happy!!!!!

One of my best friends and host of our little surprise engagement party

My beautiful ring! I can't stop starting at it!

I am leaving for Iowa for one of my oldest friends weddings today after work, and while I am gone, two of my sweet blogging friends are going to keep you all company.

Cassie from Sage and I connected because of some common interests, our love for Jesus, and our similar life situations. In fact, she just got engaged three days ago! She will be here tomorrow sharing about waiting on the Lord's timing-something I tried to do while waiting for my ring, but can't say I was perfect at that. (Thanks friends who loved me through my season of waiting.)

Nicole from Bloom will be here on Friday. She is a newlywed who inspires me daily to trust God a little more and demonstrate His love. She has some of the sweetest  advice for someone in all stages of life, and I am so happy to know her and get wisdom from her throughout this engagement and marriage.

Talk soon, sweet friends!

Tuesday, June 11, 2013


I've spent a lot of my life worrying. I've worried about my grades in school, jobs and interviews, finances, about disagreements between friends and where my relationship is headed. I've worried about calories, about not having the perfect body and my eating habits. I've worried about appearances and what others think about me. I've wasted so many hours worrying.

Worrying doesn't accomplish anything, but its what I do. I have a really anxious personality, so name something, and I've probably worried about it. I am worrying about plenty right this second that when I really think about it, God already has it under control. He doesn't need my help.

When you really think about it, isn't worry just a lack of belief? A lack of trust in the goodness of God? A way to try and control our lives ourself? God says that his ways are higher than ours, our thoughts are NOT his thoughts. That is comforting to me, because my thoughts are full of "what ifs" and worst case scenarios.

"And if God cares so wonderfully for wildflowers that are here today and thrown into the fire tomorrow, he will certainly care for you. Why do you have so little faith?" -Matthew 6:30

I remember distinctly a time when I was sick with worry. My work had just told me that the following month I would be moving from day shift to swing shift, which is 4:00 PM-12:00 AM. If I had to pick the one out of the four shifts I would NEVER in my life want to to, it would be swing shift. I didn't want to miss meeting my girlfriends for dinner, I didn't want to pass up my shopping trips with my mom after work, I didn't want to never get to cook dinner and watch a movie together snuggled on the couch with my boyfriend.

I was so upset that all I could do was worry, stress, and think about how terrible it was going to be. I prayed to God that he change my situation somehow. I actually prayed for a new job, but I think God wanted me to stay at the company I am at, because a couple weeks before the switch, we had a team meeting and my bosses told us we were switching up the shifts, and I would be working 10-6. I couldn't have been happier. God came through for me in a huge way that day. He cares about the smallest details of our lives.

Since that day, I have moved to a even better schedule, and am about to move to another position soon here that is really blessing me schedule wise and financially.

What I am trying to say is I wasted so much time worrying and being stressed out, instead of just trusting God things out according to HIS plan. His will for us is better than what we have planned for ourselves, His timing is perfect.  Even in the difficult times, when it seems like God is silent or not listening to our prayers, we can put our trust in the Lord.

That is why I tell you not to worry about everyday life-whether you have enough food and drink, or enough clothes to wear. Isn't life more than food, and your body more than clothing?-Matthew 6:25

This doesn't mean that its easy to just turn off that instinct to worry, that we won't stress or be anxious about something in life. But for me, it means that when I catch myself drowning in worry and anxiety, I fix my eyes on Jesus. I tell Him "Lord, I trust you." Over and over until I find myself releasing whatever is stressing me out into His hands.

"Give all your worries and cares to God, for he cares about you" 1 Peter 5:7

Monday, June 10, 2013

The blessing of friendship

This is one of my oldest, dearest friends, Sarah. She lives in Cedar Rapids, Iowa and I live all the way in Boise, Idaho.

Once upon a time, Sarah moved to Boise, Idaho with her family, and we became fast friends.  We spent our weekends playing with American Girl dolls and her extensive beanie baby collection. Saturdays we joyfully accepted a 20 dollar bill from our parents which promised an entire days worth of fun at the mall. We passed notes in class, and shared every detail of our lives together. 

In 7th grade, she moved back to Tennessee, and the summer before 8th grade, I took a memorable trip to see her and stay with her family. We shopped some more, spent our days by the pool, and talked about our dreams for life. I had my first kiss that summer from a boy named Justin, and Sarah was there to giggle with after.

She moved again in high school to Puerto Rico, and again I went to stay with her family and our days were filled with much of the same, sun bathing, laughing, shopping, and day dreaming. 

God has taken us both on the journey of our lives, and our friendship has weathered time and distance. No matter how long we go without talking, this girl has always been and will always be one of my best friends. She has been a steady, safe place of encouragement and friendship throughout all the years of my life. God has showered His grace upon us both, and on Wednesday, I am flying to Iowa to get to share in one of the biggest moments in Sarah's life, her wedding to the man of her dreams. I couldn't be more excited. My heart is just so full of joy to be apart of this special time, I can't believe how far we've come in our lives. 

This woman is a beautiful, strong, determined, self-less woman of God and I'm so proud to call her a friend. Congratulations Sarah, I can't wait to see you in two days!!!

Friday, June 7, 2013

He is Enough

Ladies, my heart is so full of anticipation, of excitement, of thankfulness, and wonder. The Lord has been doing some work in my heart, and showing me that His plan is so much greater than what I could plan for myself. I've been struggling with surrendering something to Him for weeks, maybe months now. I cling so tightly to control, to a plan, to my will that I lose sight of Him. I have been so faithless, I fear my future, I doubt God's provision, I confuse my discontent with His silence.

I struggle against the blessing he sends me, but He meets me where I am, in my darkest moments. He gently nudges me and quiets my anxious heart with his grace and mercy. He pours his love onto me, even when I am so caught up in my selfish ways I forget to notice the little every day blessings and the wonder of the way he works in my life.

I have finally reached that point of surrender when I can say to Him "Not my will Lord, but yours." I sat in my car this evening crying tears of mixed emotions. Repentance for my lack of trust. Thankfulness for the ways He has showered his grace upon me anyway. Joy for the plans He has for my life that He is revealing to me little by little. With every step of faith I take trusting Him, he reminds me His intentions are good, His plans are perfect, His timing is always right. I cried tears of anxiousness, I cried tears for the memories I've made, for the season of my life that I just know is coming to an end, and tears of pure excitement for the season that I know is right around the corner.

In this season of change, I will fix my eyes on Him. I will find my value, my security, my happiness, my comfort, my peace in the name of Jesus alone. Girls, its so easy to look to worldly things for our value and happiness. Its easy to get caught up in the trap of "When xyz happens, I will be happy/content/secure." But our hearts will never be truly satisfied by things of this world. God has blessed me with a man I love, a job that pays my bills and leaves me a little for fun, girlfriends that make me laugh. God doesn't want me to find my value  and worth in them, in things, in my job or in money. That longing for more that I may feel at times should point me to the cross, to the one who displayed His love for me and longs to fulfill the desires of my heart. . Fight against the lie that our value comes from anything BUT Jesus.

"We are his portion and He is our prize. Drawn to redemption by the grace in His eyes. If His grace is an ocean, we're all sinking." 

Wednesday, June 5, 2013

My Skin Care Routine

You guys, there are SO many exciting things going on in my life this month! Its killing me that I can't talk about them on the blog yet, but I will be SOON!

Until I can share the fun stuff, I am going to leave you with my skin care routine. I know, boring right? But in all honesty, the last few months my skin has been acting like the skin of a hormonal teenager. I am not sure if it is the Rheumatoid Arthritis medication Methotrexate I take, or possibly the self tanner I've been using, but I've had some serious breakouts.

For the last few years, I haven't really "washed" my face. Gasp! Gross, right? I usually just used these handy dandy make up wipes by Neutrogena. They are called "cleansing towelettes," so that sort of counts, right? They're really incredible make up removing wipes. I've tried a LOT, but these ones really get that makeup off, even waterproff mascara. They even leave my face feeling clean.

 But lately, it hasn't been cutting it. I decided to  up my skincare routine, and its really been helping!

1. First, I remove my make up with those incredible Neutrogena wipes. You'd think they were paying me for this, but no, I just love them that much. Maybe they should.

2. Then I wash my face with the Burts Bee's Acne Solutions scrub. I love this! I love all of Burt's Bees products, which is why I tried this. It has a little salylic acid in it, which helps ward off those pesky pimples.

3. Next, I use a toner. I have always been a clinque fan, and their Clarifying Lotion 2 is an old favorite. I am not exactly sure why its called a lotion, its definitely a toner, but hey, whatever helps them sleep at night. I put this on a cotton pad and rub it all over my face.

4. Finally, I use Neutrogena ROC Wrinkle Repair Moisturizer around my eyes. I don't put it everywhere, just around and under my eyes to avoid those little crows feet and bags under my eyes.

My nightly skin care routine has gone from 1.5 minutes to about 10, but its definitley making a difference. You're welcome, Burts Bees, Neutrogena, and Clinque for the rave reviews.

Tuesday, June 4, 2013

More than a boyfriend, but a best friend

I want to share one of the sweetest things my boyfriend says to me: "You're my best friend." It literally makes my heart melt, and makes me feel so valued, important, and cherished. Ronnie really is my best friend. I have a group of amazing girlfriends, who I love and value SO Much, but ultimately, Ronnie is the person who know's me best, the one who I want to share life with day in and day out, the one who I go to when I am disapointed and when I am filled with joy.

When you think about some of your best friends, what qualities do they have? Why are you best friends? I am guessing you laugh together, you trust each other, you encourage one another, and have FUN! It breaks my heart to see how many marriages are ending in divorce and I think one way that Ronnie and I are safeguarding our future marriage is by cultivating our friendship now.

How To Be Your Boyfriend's Best Friend

Spend time together
A friendship takes time, effort, and sacrifice.  Set aside regular time to spend together, to just be together. Disconnect from your phone, the internet, and other people and just hear about what's going on in each others lives, and hearts.

Encourage each other
Support your boyfriend, tell him you are his biggest fan! Stand by his side while he pursues his dreams, and lean on him when you need some encouragement!

Be a safe place for him to come to
 A true friend loves at all times, but encourages one another to walk in truth, to submit to Christ as Lord, and confess sins in their life. I expect my friends, including Ronnie to call out sin in my life lovingly, in a way that points me to Christ and His grace he displayed for us on the cross. In order to be a person my boyfriend and eventually husband feels safe confessing his sin too, I must show him the same grace that Christ showed me.

Do life together
Being best friends means that we are taking on life together! That we set aside time to really connect, to talk, to share about our day. We go on long drives, on hikes and walks, and to our favorite coffee shops to just spend time together talking, praying and reading. We have fun and laugh and just enjoy having each other to share life with!

Pray together, and for each other
-I wrote a post on how to pray for your boyfriend, and I really suggest you pray for your boyfriend consistently, and also, to pray together. If your relationship is new, or you aren't comfortable praying, try just praying before meals at first. I can't tell you enough how important I think prayer is in our lives, especially in our relationships.