Tuesday, December 31, 2013

13 Things To Ask Myself Before the End of 2013

I discovered this awesome link up at The Lady Okie's blog last week, and knew immediately I wanted to participate. These questions allowed me room to really reflect on this past year, and got me really excited for the new fresh start of 2014. I may be too late for the link up party, but sometimes I am late to things okay? I am the Beyonce of this blog and I do what I want. Please still let me sit with you guys, Lady Okie

1. What am I most proud of this year?

Thinking about what I am most proud of-not what makes me the happiest or fills me with the most joy-would have to be running again after being diagnosed with Rheumatoid Arthritis. Getting back into it has been hard. The months of figuring out medicine was hard, the days I couldn't wash my own hair not to mention think about running were hard, the countless times I laced up my shoes and tried running and my knees just wouldn't have it were hard. But I kept trying. I kept trying, and I even ran a 5k and a 10k this year. I was discouraged, overwhelmed and defeated at times, but each time I fell, I picked myself back up and here I am, running again. I am proud of that.

2. How can I become a better ________?

I am sure I could learn to be a better a lot of things, like friend, employee, youth leader, but I know without a doubt where I should spend my time, energy, and heart is on becoming a better wife. I think I'm pretty great, but I am sure there are times Ronnie doesn't think I am so great. I am excited for 2014 because I am actually starting off the New Year focused on this goal: becoming a better wife. To me, that starts with ME working on my heart, spending time with Jesus, reading my bible, praying for my husband and marriage, repenting when I am being selfish or speak unkindly to my husband, and having other wives hold me accountable. I am actually starting a bible study with a huge group of women online, Wife After God and I encourage you to check it out if you are married!

3. Where do I need to allow myself grace?
I definitely have moments where I feel like I am not wearing all the hats I wear well. That I am constantly carrying about 5 bajillion plates and they're constantly crashing to the ground. I have times I beat myself up for not having my house perfectly cleaned, organized and decorated. Times where I work late and am so tired afterwards the last thing I want to do. I get down on myself when I skip a run because I am just plain tired. I am really bad at resting, especially when there are things to be done in my home.

I need to be disciplined enough to use my time wisely, to manage my responsibilities well, but also to allow myself to rest when I get overwhelmed.

4. Am I passionate about my career?

At the beginning of 2013, I was working the worst.job.ever. I was miserable and prayed daily for God to provide me with a new job. I even made a goal for 2013 to land a job as a Recruiter, because it was the next step in my career I wanted to make. For the first six months, it seemed like a long shot, and I almost deleted it off my list of goals for the year. I thought I'd never get there, but here I am, working a great job doing what I want to be doing! I really do love my job and am excited to see where my career takes me in the next five years!

5. What did my finances look like?

One of my biggest accomplishments since we got married was that we paid off all of our debt besides our mortgage. While we were aggressively paying down debt we didn't put as much in savings as I would've liked, but now that we are debt free, we have a plan to put 20% of our income in a savings account. We have a lot of travel plans in 2014, and are going to need to be quite frugal in order to pay for those and still have a significant savings account at the end of the year. I am actually really excited about this. I love saving money, I love paying off bills, I love having a plan and a goal and meeting it! Nerd alert!

6. How did I spend my free time?

I spent my free time planning our wedding, and trying to make our house our home. I also was in school for most of 2013, and for the second half of the year, I did a lot of running and blogging!

7. What projects have I completed?

Well, we bought our house, and I've worked on getting it organized and homey room by room. We redid our flooring a few weeks before the wedding, and I've started organizing the guest bedrooms and bonus room. I've turned one of the bedrooms into my office, and we've made the bonus room Ronnie's music room. I'd love to tackle more of this organizing and nesting type of projects, and make my office a space I just LOVE!

8. In what ways can I restructure my time?

I think the best way for me to restructure my time is to do more planning. To spend a little more time planning meals, prepping lunches and healthy snacks, getting into a routine with exercise and home maintenance, etc so I don't feel like I am constantly scrambling to get things done. 

9. When have I felt the most alive?

Definitely running. Running is my thing. The clear-headedness I experience after a run is unlike anything else. I definitely need to remember this when I let busyness, tiredness, tasks, and commitments try to take away from the time I devote to running. 

10. How can I improve my relationships?

I want to spend more time with the friends I have here, to spend time praying for them, and to invest in friendships that are long distance as well. I want to remember birthdays, anniversaries, send thinking of you cards, and little just because gifts to friends and family, near and far. As far as my relationship with my husband, I want to be more intentional with our time, with our marriage and how we serve each other. We have something special that deserves the best kind of attention so it can grow and thrive!

11. What lessons have I learned in 2013?

God is good. He is who He says He is. He really is faithful.
Love is more than just a feeling. Its about laying my selfishness aside day by day, moment by moment and choosing to serve and love my husband selflessly.
Sometimes you just need a jammie day, even if your to-do list is one mile long.
Meal planning is the key to a successful week for me.
I need to run. Everyone enjoys me more if I am running consistently.
Sometimes, I just want to cry, even if I don't know why I am crying. And thats okay. 

12. What old habits would I like to release?

I'd like to stop forgetting I have clothes in the washer, and then rewashing them once, twice, three more times because they start to smell.
I'd also like to detach from my iPhone. I kid you not having a dead battery just about gives me an anxiety attack. Embarrassing.
I'd also like to lay off the dang carbs and sugarary treats. I need to save these for special occasions. Being kind of tired and grumpy at work and finding someone brought a box of donuts in does not qualify as a special occasion.

13. What new habits would I like to cultivate?

Consistent time reading the bible and praying. This was a goal for 2013 and I did okay, but there's definitely room for improvement. I set up a little corner in my office with a big comfy chair and a little side table/book case. I never had my "spot" and now I do and I am ready to take this on!
Finding a balance between running and strength training.
Starting a good cleaning schedule so I am not scrambling every Sunday to get it all done. 
Consistently saving 20% of our income!


  1. I just stumbled upon your blog and love it! I love your goals for the new year. Running and working on my relationships are two of mine as well. Happy new year!

  2. I love all the goals.. I am doing the Wife After God too.

  3. This is such a good tag/post and a good way to reflect on the year! It sounds like you've accomplished so much & have so much to be proud of! I'm a newlywed as well and reading this really reminded me the importance of being intentional with my time & cultivating good habits!

    Also, I'm glad I'm not the only person who accidentally leaves clothes in the washer a time or two...or three :)


  4. Ok lady. You have me thinking now, as usual. I love you and your heart. You have such a strong faith that guides everything you do.You are always working to become a better person and I love that about you. Here's to growing our friendship in 2014!

  5. I'm so horrible at resting too. I'm slowly (really slowly) learning that I'm NOT defined on how clean my house is, but believe me...I still get down on myself...

  6. I loved all your answers! I had so many things I could comment on, but I'll leave it at that. I loved those questions, because I felt like it was a really good time of reflection. Thanks for linking up! Good luck in 2014! So glad I found this lovely place of yours :)

  7. Oh, and I'm really glad to know I'm not the only one who forgets they have clothes in the washer!