Monday, November 25, 2013

Things I've Let Go Of



Last weekend, I snuggled up on my couch on Friday night and worked on a paper that was due on Sunday, trying to get it out of the way so I didn't have to stress about it all day on Sunday. I thought to myself, my, how my Friday nights have changed since I was 21.

I'm 26 so naturally, its time to have let go of some of my ways of my early twenties. I've traded my Friday nights (and Saturday nights, sometimes even Thursday nights) of drinking downtown with my girlfriends for nights staying in my home we bought this past summer, sometimes by myself, sometimes watching movies with my husband, and sometimes having people over for a meal and conversation.

Here are some other things I have let go of:

1. Saying yes to everyone and everything-One thing I've learned is that I am not superwoman, and I can't do it all. I have learned that saying no to something might mean saying yes to my mental health, or saying yes to focusing on my school work, or spending quality time with my husband. I've learned to set boundaries in my life in order to keep myself healthy and happy.

2. Comparing my life to others- I think that this is obviously a trap that we as women fall into so often, but I have really tried to let go of coveting my friends homes, or bodies, or perfect job, or their perfect children. I think social media and blogging makes this such a dangerous trap, to see the perfect picture that so many people paint on Facebook and think "Why isn't my life like that?" I don't think it's necessarily a bad thing to talk about all the joys in your life on social media, because who wants to read negative nancy's status. It is our job though to NOT compare our real life with what people post online!

3. Toxic friendships-this is a hard one because I always wanted to be the friend full of grace and love for everyone, but I've had friendships that were toxic, damaging, and hurtful that I eventually had to let go. Looking back, I am thankful for life giving friendships with girls I've known since elementary school and girls I've met in the last couple of years through church, my husband, and work.

4. Having a time line for life events-I always had a picture in my head about when I'd get married, when I'd be working a certain job, when I'd have babies, etc and so far, none of those events have actually happened by my "deadline" date. But I've let it go, and feel so grateful I didn't get married when I was 23, that I didn't have children at 25. Because I wasn't ready for marriage at 23, and had I married the guy I was dating, I would be crying in a corner because he wasn't who God had for me. And if I had a baby or two right now, I wouldn't be able to sleep in on Saturdays or focus on getting my masters degree like I am now. I honestly believe that God's timing is SO much better than my own and He knows me much better than I know myself. I've let go of the deadlines and learned to trust God's plan for my life.

What have you let go of?

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10 comments:

  1. Love these. I've learned a lot of the same things. I've learned that the Lord isn't really concerned with my happiness, but He's more concerned with my holiness, so I need to embrace the hard moments because that's where growth will happen!

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  2. Love this post and your ideas. I, too, have let go of my life "timeline" that I thought was perfect until I realized woah I am not ready for some of these things yet. It's so hard not to compare and we probably always will, but it's good to realize we are doing it and stop!

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  3. I'm with you on the deadlines! It's so funny how when you're younger you think things will/should happen at an earlier stage and then you grow up and realize that things often don't go as planned-- but the good thing is life still goes on :) I love those bottles in the post, did you make them?! I have leftover bottles from my wedding that are yellow that I want to repurpose but I haven't figured out how yet!

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  4. Love those vases and yes, I've let go of alot--it is totally freeing! :) Following you now from the Mingle Monday! http://secondchances-ash.blogspot.com/

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  5. 100% yes to letting go of timelines. I just always thought I would have my life so much more together by 27- house, babies, married, dream job. And I have only one of those things- and that only happened a year ago! I know the house/babies/job will all come in time!

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  6. I have such a problem with number 1 too!

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  7. I love this list! #1 is definitely the new norm for me but #2 is for sure the hardest. And you're right, blogging makes it that much harder. Sometimes I wonder why I do it to myself! Instead of comparing myself to others I try to look at it as ways to make my life more enjoyable and better. #3 is one I've been trying to do but unfortunately those "toxic friends" don't always want to let you go! New follower!!

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  8. I couldn't agree with you more. I got married at 29 and I never envisioned getting married so "late". Ha! I am so happy I waited. I wouldn't trade my twenties for anything!!

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  9. #2 for me. I still struggle with this, but I'm also realizing that I do love where I'm at and the life I have.

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  10. Boundaries and cutting people out who are toxic are so freakin' difficult even when you know it's necessary. I hate doing it, but then feel rewarded afterwards. Praying for you in those tough moments girl. It's so challenging, but YOU CAN DO HARD THINGS! :)

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