Tuesday, June 4, 2013

More than a boyfriend, but a best friend

I want to share one of the sweetest things my boyfriend says to me: "You're my best friend." It literally makes my heart melt, and makes me feel so valued, important, and cherished. Ronnie really is my best friend. I have a group of amazing girlfriends, who I love and value SO Much, but ultimately, Ronnie is the person who know's me best, the one who I want to share life with day in and day out, the one who I go to when I am disapointed and when I am filled with joy.

When you think about some of your best friends, what qualities do they have? Why are you best friends? I am guessing you laugh together, you trust each other, you encourage one another, and have FUN! It breaks my heart to see how many marriages are ending in divorce and I think one way that Ronnie and I are safeguarding our future marriage is by cultivating our friendship now.


How To Be Your Boyfriend's Best Friend



Spend time together
A friendship takes time, effort, and sacrifice.  Set aside regular time to spend together, to just be together. Disconnect from your phone, the internet, and other people and just hear about what's going on in each others lives, and hearts.

Encourage each other
Support your boyfriend, tell him you are his biggest fan! Stand by his side while he pursues his dreams, and lean on him when you need some encouragement!

Be a safe place for him to come to
 A true friend loves at all times, but encourages one another to walk in truth, to submit to Christ as Lord, and confess sins in their life. I expect my friends, including Ronnie to call out sin in my life lovingly, in a way that points me to Christ and His grace he displayed for us on the cross. In order to be a person my boyfriend and eventually husband feels safe confessing his sin too, I must show him the same grace that Christ showed me.

Do life together
Being best friends means that we are taking on life together! That we set aside time to really connect, to talk, to share about our day. We go on long drives, on hikes and walks, and to our favorite coffee shops to just spend time together talking, praying and reading. We have fun and laugh and just enjoy having each other to share life with!

Pray together, and for each other
-I wrote a post on how to pray for your boyfriend, and I really suggest you pray for your boyfriend consistently, and also, to pray together. If your relationship is new, or you aren't comfortable praying, try just praying before meals at first. I can't tell you enough how important I think prayer is in our lives, especially in our relationships.

7 comments:

  1. cute post Britt! I love being Krieg's best friend, I think it's SO SO important :)

    Karissa
    kandkshaw.blogspot.com

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  2. I love this. Two people can easily get distracted with work and school, forgetting to spend quality time together to keep the relationship strong.

    My boyfriend and I noticed that we were starting to be boring, hanging out at the apartment watching tv because we were too exhausted from work yet we were glued to our laptop and/or phone checking our work emails. We decided to have date nights every Saturday and it's been wonderful. Our first date over 4 years ago was the movies, so we wanted to go back to that. We're loving it!

    I'm glad you posted this. :)

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  3. Awww this is so sweet! This is exactly the type of relationship that I'd love to have with my first boyfriend someday! After reading this I wish that day was coming like now... but I'll be patient and wait on the Lord for someone special in His perfect timing!!

    xoxo Miss ALK
    http://missalk1994.blogspot.com

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  4. This is such a beautiful post. I really liked thinking about this. I'm going to share it with my boyfriend, too. Thanks for posting. :)

    Best,
    Danielle
    http://awriterinlove.blogspot.com

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  5. Hi Brittany! I nominated you for a liebster award. If you are interested, here is the link...
    http://justinawho.blogspot.com/2013/06/liebster-award.html

    justina @ www.justinawho.blogspot.com

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  6. this is a great post. i showed it to my boyfriend cause he has problems really paying attention without the phone.

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