Wednesday, March 27, 2013

On marriage, from a single (ish) girl

If you've read my story, you would know that I am a "single girl." Single, as in not married.
But that word doesn't really describe me, because I am in a committted relationship with a man I love, respect, admire, and hope that I get to spend my entire life with.

Here he is on Christmas Eve 2012, isn't he cute?
We're dating, but we both believe that dating has one purpose: for marriage.
Dating for marriage has been our intent from day one.
If either of us ever got to the point we could not see ourselves marrying one another,
we both have agreed to end the relationship right then to protect our hearts as much as possible.

I stumbled across this artcile, "3 Things I Wish I Knew Before We Got Married"  in Relevant Magazine while pretending I was working the other day.
This article had three really simple, but sometimes, really hard to execute truths.

 "...contrary to popular opinion, the goal of marriage is not happiness. And although happiness is often a very real byproduct of a healthy relationship, marriage has a far more significant purpose in sight. It is designed to pull dysfunction to the surface of our lives, set it on fire and help us grow."

Isn't this a beautiful picture of marriage?
Someone that knows you, all of your flaws and quirks, and not only loves you for them,
but helps you grow into a better person? Who helps you overcome the things that hinder you most in life?
Someone who points you back to God?

Thats what I am hoping for in my marriage someday.
Until then, I pray that God is preparing my heart for a healthy, Christ-centered marriage.
I pray that I will be the kind of wife that I described above.
One who encourages, loves, builds up, respects, and honors my husband.
One who gently points him back to God and His word, and displays the gospel to him through my actions and words.

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Happy Wednesday, friends!


  1. This was such a great post! I'm single "single" (meaning there's no special guy in my life right now) but I love reading blogger's thoughts on marriage- because it's such a special thing. :-)

    xoxo Miss ALK

  2. love this! needed to read that today.

  3. I love this post and I love that definition. It's so powerful.

  4. Definitely on the same page with you, girl! I'm in a very similar place. Sometimes it's easy to take it for advantage. I try to keep my eyes on the fact that being "single" is about giving the Lord your time, and letting Him prepare you for the marriage chapter.